Smelling a shoe and being in ones shoe both definitely means differently.
In this post, im going to explain this phase in terms of relationship. but before i start off with anything, please let me remind those lovers out there.Those who are engaged into a relationship, to ask yourself, Why are you being engaged into one. Why you are with her? or why are you with him?
Love? is that the answer? If you love someone, is it all about your feeling towards the special person and even that special person feelings towards you? No, not entirely true. Its also about
1) Knowing and feeling that persons feeling
2) Knowing why that person feel that way and also
3) Being able to feel why and what that person feel as such.
There are so many things to consider when u are in a relationship and because there are just too many things to consider, people who are engaged in a relationship often get quarrels and argument all because they neglected about these things.
If you are the type of person that love to talk and your girlfriend is the one that don't like to talk as much as you. its ok. but before you accept the answer as its ok, ask yourself those question as stated above. If she doesnt talk to you much or if she wants you to talk to her more, ask...Why have she feel this way? What have i done to make her feel this way. OR What can i do to make her to differently. Once you know your answer to those questions, ONLY THEN you can ask yourself
1) Why she couldnt feel the way im feeling now?
2) Why cant she get adapt to me?
3) Why cant things be in my ways than to be in hers
Now talking about Smelling the Shoe. means you are asking question based on your own feeling, by your own judgement. Example, your girlfriend is asking you for this, is asking you for that. you got annoyed and might start to grumble abit. For those who doesnt know, Being in one's shoe means to feel what that person is feeling. Same thing as around. If you call your bf to get you something and he strongly decline not to buy it for you. Instead of grumbling on it, THINK and FEEL why doesnt he want to buy it for you?
If your girlfriend complain about something, THINK and ASK, Why she complained about it? (DON'T ASSUME) before you grumble that she always complain about it. Same as our normal life style, would you think of what you want to eat then get hungry or get hungry then think about what to eat. If your answer is the 1st option then look at your tummy and the answer is there. Don't sold someone when that person have done something wrong. Think on why that person have done it wrongly then only judge to scold that person or not.
The character of a person that dun talk much. You all should not talk about the person not talking much but instead THINK on what happen to that person that cuz him/her not to talk as much?Is it because of Mood? the way he/she is raised up? or even a toothache..? There are many things that are beyond our control or even beyond that person's control. So you must to understand and accept.
So before you complain or grumble about things u dun like about your partner, please think on why your partner will act as such.
And coming back to those earlier questions that i asked, about why you are with him/her? Obviously, its because there is something deep within that human soul that you admire that's why you choose him/her to be your bf/gf
Now, you must know this, " Do you really love him/ love her?" You have to answer that question.
Many teenagers nowadays are engaged into a relationship all because of Physical reason. Please don't let that factor blinds you away from your thoughts.
If you really love that person, please continue to love that person with Harmony. To some guys, If possible, please treat your girlfriend with respect and treat them as your 'girlfriend' and not like an object. Not all girls are like those that play and dump you aside, there are really good ones outside, so dun regret if they leave you, cuz sometimes it could be your fault that chase them away. Don't talk bad about your partner or Grumbles on stuff that he/she is not doing for you...because sometimes:
When things does not happen in your own way, its the best way.
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Friday, October 8, 2010
Tuesday, August 10, 2010
ฤดูรัก (Love Seasons - thai ver.)
รักเป็นเช่น Seasons สี่ Spring, Summer, ฤดูใบไม้ร่วงและฤดูหนาว ทุกคนในโลกนี้ขั้นตอนที่ในโลกของความสัมพันธ์เหล่านี้ต้องผ่านสี่ฤดู ความแตกต่างเป็น
1) ฤดูกาลนานเท่าใดเป็นไปสุดท้าย
2) นานเท่าไหร่จะให้พวกเขาเหล่านี้ไปผ่านสี่ฤดูกาลและ
3) ใช้เวลาหลายรอบไม่ซ้ำฤดูกาล
หลายคนบอกว่าเมื่อคุณรักคุณอยู่ในโลกของ และฉันสามารถกล่าวว่าโลกของตัวเองเป็นเหมือนฤดูกาล ภาพอย่างนี้รักเป็นเช่นดอกไม้ พวกเขาบำรุงจากเมล็ดจะเจริญเติบโตในพืชพวกเขาเริ่มบานเป็นดอกและในที่สุดพวกเขา witter และตาย เพียงเรื่องของการเวลา รักเป็นเช่นสี่ฤดูกาล
หลายคนบอกว่าเมื่อคุณรักคุณอยู่ในโลกของ และฉันสามารถกล่าวว่าโลกของตัวเองเป็นเหมือนฤดูกาล ภาพอย่างนี้รักเป็นเช่นดอกไม้ พวกเขาบำรุงจากเมล็ดจะเจริญเติบโตในพืชพวกเขาเริ่มบานเป็นดอกและในที่สุดพวกเขาล้มตาย เพียงเรื่องของการเวลา รักเป็นเช่นสี่ฤดูกาล
ในช่วงฤดูใบไม้ผลิพืชเริ่มเจริญเติบโตและบำรุง รักชอบมันก่อนที่จะเริ่มรับรู้บุคคล เมื่อคุณรู้ว่าเขาอย่างเต็มที่คุณยอมรับเขาเป็นแฟนของคุณ ของปลายฤดูใบไม้ผลิเช่นเมื่อดอกไม้ของคุณจะเริ่มบาน โอกาสและโอกาสที่มี อากาศดีเพียงการแช่เย็นและผ่อนคลาย
เมื่อฤดูร้อนขึ้นของอุณหภูมิเพิ่มขึ้น โดยขณะนี้สีของดอกไม้ที่มีมากมายดังนั้น ความรักของคุณต่อเขาเริ่มเข้มขึ้น ทุกอย่างที่สูงสุดของทั้งของคุณมีความสนุกสนานและดูเหมือนทุกอย่างได้ดี ชมพระอาทิตย์ตกโรแมนติกและรู้สึกอบอุ่นกับสิ่งรอบตัวคุณ กลิ่นดอกไม้ที่สมบูรณ์เพียง มีแสงสว่างมากกว่าความมืดเป็น มีเวลาหวานมากกว่าอาร์กิวเมนต์เป็น
ฤดูใบไม้ร่วงที่นี่และอุณหภูมิลดลงและมีมากขึ้นกว่าคืนวัน ใบเริ่มกระจุยและดอกไม้เริ่มตาย ณ จุดนี้ชีวิตรักของคุณกับเขาเริ่มสั่นคลอน อาร์กิวเมนต์และทะเลาะสวมบทบาทและคุณไม่ทราบว่าจะทำอย่างไร ทุกใบในโลกของคุณแสดงไว้วางใจของคุณต่อเขา แสดงถึงความหวังและเชื่อว่า ความคิดของคุณเป็นเหมือนลม ความรู้สึกของคุณเช่นสภาพอากาศ เศร้าเล็กน้อยและมืด วันสุขเริ่มเป็นส่วนของความทรงจำของคุณ
เมื่อฤดูหนาวจะบทบาท คุณพยายามที่จะติดส่วนของความทรงจำกลับกัน แต่ล้มเหลว การตัดสินใจของคุณทำ คุณเลือกที่จะออกจากเขาและจบความสัมพันธ์ ดอกไม้เฉาไปทั้งหมดและหยดออกมาและถึงพื้น คุณยังคิดถึงเขาคุณยังคงคิดของเขา คุณได้พยายามที่จะรับใบลดลง แต่พวกเขาทั้งหมดเพียงแค่แตกและแบ่งให้ชิ้นนับไม่ได้ ความไว้วางใจของคุณต่อเขาก็จะกลับไปทางมันเป็น เวลาดูเหมือนว่าที่ผ่านมาโดยช้าและโลกของคุณเติมความมืดมากขึ้นกว่าเดิม หิมะมีความโศกเศร้าและหิมะโกหกของคุณครอบคลุมสิ่งมีชีวิตที่อยู่ลึกด้านล่าง ความโศกเศร้าของคุณได้ครอบคลุมและตาบอดคุณไปจากความหวังใหม่ ความรู้สึกภายในของคุณตาบอดคุณไปจากความเป็นจริง
เวลาสภาพภูมิอากาศของคุณ เมื่อสภาพภูมิอากาศเริ่มจะร้อนในช่วงปลายฤดูหนาว, หิมะเริ่มละลาย เมื่อเวลาผ่านไปความเสียใจของคุณเริ่มจางลงและเพิ่มขึ้นโอกาส ที่สิ้นสุดของฤดูหนาวเริ่มต้นของฤดูใบไม้ผลิพืชจะเริ่มขึ้นอีกครั้งและรอบซ้ำ
ดังนั้นทุกคนที่ออกมีผู้อ่านบทความของฉันหากคุณมีเพียงแค่เลิกกับแฟนของคุณไม่ต้องกังวล ไม่สิ้นสุดของโลก เวลาจะรักษาหัวใจของคุณเสีย คุณเพียงแค่ในฤดูหนาว มีสภาพภูมิอากาศและละลายไปเจ็บปวดของคุณ อากาศเป็นเวลาเพื่อให้คุณควบคุมวิธีที่รวดเร็วคุณต้องการได้รับรักษา การตัดสินใจอยู่ในมือของคุณเนื่องจาก'โลกเป็นของคุณ คุณอาจไม่สามารถควบคุมทุกสี่ฤดูกาลแน่นอน แต่คุณสามารถควบคุมฤดูหนาว นี้เป็นเหตุผลที่ผู้ใช้เพิ่มความระมัดระวังเมื่อฤดูหนาวมา
ปลายฤดูหนาวเป็นจุดเริ่มต้นของฤดูใบไม้ผลิ. สุดท้ายของสิ่งที่เป็นจุดเริ่มต้นของอื่นๆ
1) ฤดูกาลนานเท่าใดเป็นไปสุดท้าย
2) นานเท่าไหร่จะให้พวกเขาเหล่านี้ไปผ่านสี่ฤดูกาลและ
3) ใช้เวลาหลายรอบไม่ซ้ำฤดูกาล
หลายคนบอกว่าเมื่อคุณรักคุณอยู่ในโลกของ และฉันสามารถกล่าวว่าโลกของตัวเองเป็นเหมือนฤดูกาล ภาพอย่างนี้รักเป็นเช่นดอกไม้ พวกเขาบำรุงจากเมล็ดจะเจริญเติบโตในพืชพวกเขาเริ่มบานเป็นดอกและในที่สุดพวกเขา witter และตาย เพียงเรื่องของการเวลา รักเป็นเช่นสี่ฤดูกาล
หลายคนบอกว่าเมื่อคุณรักคุณอยู่ในโลกของ และฉันสามารถกล่าวว่าโลกของตัวเองเป็นเหมือนฤดูกาล ภาพอย่างนี้รักเป็นเช่นดอกไม้ พวกเขาบำรุงจากเมล็ดจะเจริญเติบโตในพืชพวกเขาเริ่มบานเป็นดอกและในที่สุดพวกเขาล้มตาย เพียงเรื่องของการเวลา รักเป็นเช่นสี่ฤดูกาล
ในช่วงฤดูใบไม้ผลิพืชเริ่มเจริญเติบโตและบำรุง รักชอบมันก่อนที่จะเริ่มรับรู้บุคคล เมื่อคุณรู้ว่าเขาอย่างเต็มที่คุณยอมรับเขาเป็นแฟนของคุณ ของปลายฤดูใบไม้ผลิเช่นเมื่อดอกไม้ของคุณจะเริ่มบาน โอกาสและโอกาสที่มี อากาศดีเพียงการแช่เย็นและผ่อนคลาย
เมื่อฤดูร้อนขึ้นของอุณหภูมิเพิ่มขึ้น โดยขณะนี้สีของดอกไม้ที่มีมากมายดังนั้น ความรักของคุณต่อเขาเริ่มเข้มขึ้น ทุกอย่างที่สูงสุดของทั้งของคุณมีความสนุกสนานและดูเหมือนทุกอย่างได้ดี ชมพระอาทิตย์ตกโรแมนติกและรู้สึกอบอุ่นกับสิ่งรอบตัวคุณ กลิ่นดอกไม้ที่สมบูรณ์เพียง มีแสงสว่างมากกว่าความมืดเป็น มีเวลาหวานมากกว่าอาร์กิวเมนต์เป็น
ฤดูใบไม้ร่วงที่นี่และอุณหภูมิลดลงและมีมากขึ้นกว่าคืนวัน ใบเริ่มกระจุยและดอกไม้เริ่มตาย ณ จุดนี้ชีวิตรักของคุณกับเขาเริ่มสั่นคลอน อาร์กิวเมนต์และทะเลาะสวมบทบาทและคุณไม่ทราบว่าจะทำอย่างไร ทุกใบในโลกของคุณแสดงไว้วางใจของคุณต่อเขา แสดงถึงความหวังและเชื่อว่า ความคิดของคุณเป็นเหมือนลม ความรู้สึกของคุณเช่นสภาพอากาศ เศร้าเล็กน้อยและมืด วันสุขเริ่มเป็นส่วนของความทรงจำของคุณ
เมื่อฤดูหนาวจะบทบาท คุณพยายามที่จะติดส่วนของความทรงจำกลับกัน แต่ล้มเหลว การตัดสินใจของคุณทำ คุณเลือกที่จะออกจากเขาและจบความสัมพันธ์ ดอกไม้เฉาไปทั้งหมดและหยดออกมาและถึงพื้น คุณยังคิดถึงเขาคุณยังคงคิดของเขา คุณได้พยายามที่จะรับใบลดลง แต่พวกเขาทั้งหมดเพียงแค่แตกและแบ่งให้ชิ้นนับไม่ได้ ความไว้วางใจของคุณต่อเขาก็จะกลับไปทางมันเป็น เวลาดูเหมือนว่าที่ผ่านมาโดยช้าและโลกของคุณเติมความมืดมากขึ้นกว่าเดิม หิมะมีความโศกเศร้าและหิมะโกหกของคุณครอบคลุมสิ่งมีชีวิตที่อยู่ลึกด้านล่าง ความโศกเศร้าของคุณได้ครอบคลุมและตาบอดคุณไปจากความหวังใหม่ ความรู้สึกภายในของคุณตาบอดคุณไปจากความเป็นจริง
เวลาสภาพภูมิอากาศของคุณ เมื่อสภาพภูมิอากาศเริ่มจะร้อนในช่วงปลายฤดูหนาว, หิมะเริ่มละลาย เมื่อเวลาผ่านไปความเสียใจของคุณเริ่มจางลงและเพิ่มขึ้นโอกาส ที่สิ้นสุดของฤดูหนาวเริ่มต้นของฤดูใบไม้ผลิพืชจะเริ่มขึ้นอีกครั้งและรอบซ้ำ
ดังนั้นทุกคนที่ออกมีผู้อ่านบทความของฉันหากคุณมีเพียงแค่เลิกกับแฟนของคุณไม่ต้องกังวล ไม่สิ้นสุดของโลก เวลาจะรักษาหัวใจของคุณเสีย คุณเพียงแค่ในฤดูหนาว มีสภาพภูมิอากาศและละลายไปเจ็บปวดของคุณ อากาศเป็นเวลาเพื่อให้คุณควบคุมวิธีที่รวดเร็วคุณต้องการได้รับรักษา การตัดสินใจอยู่ในมือของคุณเนื่องจาก'โลกเป็นของคุณ คุณอาจไม่สามารถควบคุมทุกสี่ฤดูกาลแน่นอน แต่คุณสามารถควบคุมฤดูหนาว นี้เป็นเหตุผลที่ผู้ใช้เพิ่มความระมัดระวังเมื่อฤดูหนาวมา
ปลายฤดูหนาวเป็นจุดเริ่มต้นของฤดูใบไม้ผลิ. สุดท้ายของสิ่งที่เป็นจุดเริ่มต้นของอื่นๆ
Monday, August 9, 2010
Love Seasons
Love are like the 4 Seasons. Spring, Summer, Autumn and Winter. Anyone in this world who step into the world of relationship must go through these 4 season. The differences are
1) How long does each season is going to last,
2) How long does it takes for them to go through these 4 seasons and
3) How many time does the season cycle repeats.
Many people say when you are in love, you are in your own world. And i can say your own world is like the seasons. Picture in this way, Love are like flowers. They nurture from a seed, they grow into a plant, they began to bloom into flowers and in the end they witter and die. Its just a matter of time. love are like 4 seasons.
During Spring, the plant begin to grow and nurture. Its like love, at 1st you begin to get to know a person. When you have fully know him, you accept him to be your boyfriend. Its like the end of spring, when your flower begins to bloom. Chances and Opportunity are there. The weather is just nice, chilling and relaxing.
When Summer take its place, the temperature rises. By now the colour of the flowers are so rich. Your love towards him begin to deepen. Everything is at its peak, both of you are having fun and everything seems just fine. Watching the romantic sunset and feels warm about anything around you. The flowers scents are just perfect. There are more light than darkness. There are more sweet time than arguments.
Autumn is here and the temperature drops and there are more of night than day. Leaves begin to fall apart and flower begins to die. At this point, your love life with him starts to be shaky. Argument and quarrel take its role and you don't know what to do. Every leaves in your world represent your trust towards him. Represents your hopes and believes. Your thoughts are like the wind. Your feelings are like the weather. Abit gloomy and dark. The happy days begins to be the fragment of your memories.
When Winter take its role. You try to stick the fragment of memories back together but fails. Your decision is made. You chose to leave him and end the relationship. The Flowers all witter away and the last leave drops and reached the ground.You still miss him, you still thinks of him. you had tried to pick up the fallen leaves but they all simply just crack and breaks to uncountable pieces. Your trust towards him just could get back to the way it was. Time seems to past by slowly and your world is fill with more darksness than ever. Snow are your sadness and the lying snows covers the living things which lies deep below. Your sadness have covered and blind you away from new hope. Your inner feelings blinded you away from the reality.
Time is your Climate. When the Climate begins to be hotter during the end of winter, snow begins to melt. As time passes, your sadness begins to fade and opportunity rises. At the end of winter, beginning of spring the plant begins to grow again and the cycle repeats.
So for all those people out there who is reading my post, if you have just break up with your boyfriend or girlfriend, don't worry. Its not the end of the world. Time will heal your broken heart. You are just in the Winter Season. You want miracle? Be the miracle. Be the Climate and melt away your sorrows. Climate is also time, so you control how fast you want to get heal. The decision is in your hand cuz the 'world' belongs to you. You might not be able to control all the 4 seasons but you can definitely control winter. This is also the reason why people take extra caution when winter comes.
The end of winter is the beginning of spring.
Etara : The End of something is the Beginning of the other. Words : 671
1) How long does each season is going to last,
2) How long does it takes for them to go through these 4 seasons and
3) How many time does the season cycle repeats.
Many people say when you are in love, you are in your own world. And i can say your own world is like the seasons. Picture in this way, Love are like flowers. They nurture from a seed, they grow into a plant, they began to bloom into flowers and in the end they witter and die. Its just a matter of time. love are like 4 seasons.
During Spring, the plant begin to grow and nurture. Its like love, at 1st you begin to get to know a person. When you have fully know him, you accept him to be your boyfriend. Its like the end of spring, when your flower begins to bloom. Chances and Opportunity are there. The weather is just nice, chilling and relaxing.
When Summer take its place, the temperature rises. By now the colour of the flowers are so rich. Your love towards him begin to deepen. Everything is at its peak, both of you are having fun and everything seems just fine. Watching the romantic sunset and feels warm about anything around you. The flowers scents are just perfect. There are more light than darkness. There are more sweet time than arguments.
Autumn is here and the temperature drops and there are more of night than day. Leaves begin to fall apart and flower begins to die. At this point, your love life with him starts to be shaky. Argument and quarrel take its role and you don't know what to do. Every leaves in your world represent your trust towards him. Represents your hopes and believes. Your thoughts are like the wind. Your feelings are like the weather. Abit gloomy and dark. The happy days begins to be the fragment of your memories.
When Winter take its role. You try to stick the fragment of memories back together but fails. Your decision is made. You chose to leave him and end the relationship. The Flowers all witter away and the last leave drops and reached the ground.You still miss him, you still thinks of him. you had tried to pick up the fallen leaves but they all simply just crack and breaks to uncountable pieces. Your trust towards him just could get back to the way it was. Time seems to past by slowly and your world is fill with more darksness than ever. Snow are your sadness and the lying snows covers the living things which lies deep below. Your sadness have covered and blind you away from new hope. Your inner feelings blinded you away from the reality.
Time is your Climate. When the Climate begins to be hotter during the end of winter, snow begins to melt. As time passes, your sadness begins to fade and opportunity rises. At the end of winter, beginning of spring the plant begins to grow again and the cycle repeats.
So for all those people out there who is reading my post, if you have just break up with your boyfriend or girlfriend, don't worry. Its not the end of the world. Time will heal your broken heart. You are just in the Winter Season. You want miracle? Be the miracle. Be the Climate and melt away your sorrows. Climate is also time, so you control how fast you want to get heal. The decision is in your hand cuz the 'world' belongs to you. You might not be able to control all the 4 seasons but you can definitely control winter. This is also the reason why people take extra caution when winter comes.
The end of winter is the beginning of spring.
Etara : The End of something is the Beginning of the other. Words : 671
Friday, June 25, 2010
Male are females, Females are Males?
Whao! its been sometime ever since i updated my blog. Its time for me to start my engine again. Time for the next ride.You know, everytime when i log into facebook and wanted to add some new friends, the gender always turn out to be male and if not its always female...Why does it have to be like this? LOL...so i began to wonder are male and female really of both different kind or we both are the same?
You know human being really does have to go through a cycle and each and everyone of us have the chance to be a male and a female. Somehow or rather is kinda thru as we grow up. What do i mean by that? Lol... This is in terms of character. Im goin to explain this in term or relationship. When we are young, at about the age of 17 - 28, have you noticed that in most of the relationship it is always the guy who have been giving out more than receiving? The guy who show more love to the girl than the other way round? As we grew older, as in middle age, 40 onwards till about 60. Things began to change. This time around, the women began to love the men more than the men love the women. Hmm, or should i say this as, the women began to show more love to the men. Each sex seems to change.
At teenage life, you 'guys' out there might be complaining things like, how come i always have to do everything for her. When she get into an argument, its always me who apologies regardless on who is right and wrong. She always say she love me but she does not show as such. Young men of 17-28 always complain about this things. In the women point of view, they usually do things quietly. They always do things that the guy wouldn't know and would want him to find it out by himself and feel good about her doing. Teenage girls always have something to hide, like their love towards there boyfriend. Why? because if they show their love to their max, they are afraid that the guy wouldn't be able to appreciate them. Appreciation and Respect for girls comes in to be the top in the list. Then what will happen to them as they grew older. When Both become as 1. When both world are merge to form 1 completely new world. The answer to that is, everything changes. might sound bad, but this is how it normally work out.
After Marriage, when the men carrier is at his top priority, when the women stays at home and look after the kids, everything changes. The Love shown by the men to his wife began to decrease due to his work load and the stress he is facing. He began to focus on more on the term, "How to make more money?" while as time goes on, the women began to think about the term, "Does he still love me?". As time goes on, argument and quarrel occurs due to this facts. The men wouldn't have time to spend with her as he is always thinking or his work, while the women feel bad for 'feeling' neglected. This is why both parties must sit down and talk about it. Sort things out and find the best solution. Getting to know one another is never a one day thing, it takes a really long time for one to understand and accept the other. Why have Adults been quarreling after 20, 30 years of marriage? Can answer that question? ^^
Teenage mindset of thinking is always " i love you, you love me' kinda thing, but as we all grow older, its all about, "i understand how you feel, you understand how i feel"
So for those guys/girls out there who always been thinking, he does not love me as much as i love him or she does not love me as much as i love her. Well, maybe the time have not come yet. take things slowly. Why rush? You are still young, u still got plenty of time. Always remember, Slow and Steady Wins The Race. ( Words : 709)
You know human being really does have to go through a cycle and each and everyone of us have the chance to be a male and a female. Somehow or rather is kinda thru as we grow up. What do i mean by that? Lol... This is in terms of character. Im goin to explain this in term or relationship. When we are young, at about the age of 17 - 28, have you noticed that in most of the relationship it is always the guy who have been giving out more than receiving? The guy who show more love to the girl than the other way round? As we grew older, as in middle age, 40 onwards till about 60. Things began to change. This time around, the women began to love the men more than the men love the women. Hmm, or should i say this as, the women began to show more love to the men. Each sex seems to change.
At teenage life, you 'guys' out there might be complaining things like, how come i always have to do everything for her. When she get into an argument, its always me who apologies regardless on who is right and wrong. She always say she love me but she does not show as such. Young men of 17-28 always complain about this things. In the women point of view, they usually do things quietly. They always do things that the guy wouldn't know and would want him to find it out by himself and feel good about her doing. Teenage girls always have something to hide, like their love towards there boyfriend. Why? because if they show their love to their max, they are afraid that the guy wouldn't be able to appreciate them. Appreciation and Respect for girls comes in to be the top in the list. Then what will happen to them as they grew older. When Both become as 1. When both world are merge to form 1 completely new world. The answer to that is, everything changes. might sound bad, but this is how it normally work out.
After Marriage, when the men carrier is at his top priority, when the women stays at home and look after the kids, everything changes. The Love shown by the men to his wife began to decrease due to his work load and the stress he is facing. He began to focus on more on the term, "How to make more money?" while as time goes on, the women began to think about the term, "Does he still love me?". As time goes on, argument and quarrel occurs due to this facts. The men wouldn't have time to spend with her as he is always thinking or his work, while the women feel bad for 'feeling' neglected. This is why both parties must sit down and talk about it. Sort things out and find the best solution. Getting to know one another is never a one day thing, it takes a really long time for one to understand and accept the other. Why have Adults been quarreling after 20, 30 years of marriage? Can answer that question? ^^
Teenage mindset of thinking is always " i love you, you love me' kinda thing, but as we all grow older, its all about, "i understand how you feel, you understand how i feel"
So for those guys/girls out there who always been thinking, he does not love me as much as i love him or she does not love me as much as i love her. Well, maybe the time have not come yet. take things slowly. Why rush? You are still young, u still got plenty of time. Always remember, Slow and Steady Wins The Race. ( Words : 709)
Thursday, May 13, 2010
Stereotyping? Does it Matter?
This week post will be kept rather short. This post is up as a request and it is named as " Stereotyping, Does it matter?" There are all sort of people in this world. We all come from different part of the world and therefore we appears to look differently. Because of that, we mix around with the people that tend to look alike like us, why? cuz we naturally feel comfortable with it. Human mix with Human. Animals mix with animals. Even plants grows in areas of their own kind. Humans however appears to be different in colour, as said before. And because of this, we mix with ppl of our own colours and we think as one. The way we all act and behave are due to the influence of our upbring as we are all exposed to different "Culture". Like example, from the Westerns ,their parents feel ok for their child to be engaged into a relationship at very young age as they this its alrite, they will hv to learn this things sooner or later. As for the Asians, the parents will have a completely opposite way of thinking. They will disagree and say, No! cannot. Why should they engaged in to such act/activities at such a young age? they will learn it naturally as they go up.
You see, different races, different thinking, different mentality. Japanese people are very kind and sweet, the Black Africans are very rough. Can i say that? NO...i cannot. If i do, then ill be wrong. We cannot stereotype people by their colours and the Majority. If everytime i turn on my tv and see bombing every where in Thailand, can i say Thailand is a dangerous country? I step into Thailand, i get bomb. No..lol.. You see, Mass Medias are Brain Washers. This is the fact. They filter out everything just to get public attentions. If not, news will be too boring. So interesting facts must be there. One cannot say one race is better than another. and One should not feel offended if one race claim that they are better. Why? Now let me ask you guys, Do u feel good once you have achieve something? If u win a lottery, do u feel good? If u study hard and get good results, do u feel good? Yes rite?
Human are made in a way to 'Show off' Show off in what sense? Show off in a way, they are better. Even for those ppl who disagree with this statement, they are actually showing off too. How? You might think, people who are quiet and dun say anything good about themselves, arent showing off. well not exactly, they show off themselves to tell people indirectly that, i m better than you, i dun need to boast around like you do, in a way show off that they dun need to show off. Read again if u cant digest it. ^^ So what is showing off going to do with Stereotyping?
Every Race claim they are better in every way. Why not? If you disagree and say, everyone should be treated equally. Well, yes and no. Why? as said b4, we are all brought up from different backgrounds, from different religion and different Culture, all because we all come of different Place. We all cnt exactly be the same or act the same. So, we tend to 'show off' matters that we know, like mostly are from the things closest to us, eg : the power of my race. Well, whats wrong with that? nothing wrong.
On the other hand, For those people who think that their race is better than another, as said its nothing wrong about that, however one should Never Discriminate another Race. I can say, Chinese are generally very Smart people. BUT, it is wrong for me to say Chinese are Smarter than 'other races'. You can say how good you are, but never compare, cuz always remember there will always be someone better than you. You think Bill gate is the richest man? You think Warren Buffet is the richest man? How to do know? People only can count the value of Shares they have in hand, how about personal asset? If u think u r better than another? then you should start to think, who is better than you? So as a reminder, dun say bad about another race cuz everything in this world happens in 2 ways, Good and Bad. There is always something good and bad in every race.
For those who are offended : Think in such a way , so what? if he/she is discriminating my race, does it shows that, that type of race that he is from is lack of moral values? Does people of his race 'kurang ajar'? They always talk bad about other people races? Ignore such act as we cant please everyone.
For those who are offending but did not realise : If ur words seems right to you, think again, if they seems to be the same or not to the others. Care about people feelings 1st, before you start to comfort yourself. Rmb ya, no one is supreme..
Etara : A mans joy is another's sorrow. If i win money and i m happy, there should be a man that looses money and feel sad. ( Words : 888)
You see, different races, different thinking, different mentality. Japanese people are very kind and sweet, the Black Africans are very rough. Can i say that? NO...i cannot. If i do, then ill be wrong. We cannot stereotype people by their colours and the Majority. If everytime i turn on my tv and see bombing every where in Thailand, can i say Thailand is a dangerous country? I step into Thailand, i get bomb. No..lol.. You see, Mass Medias are Brain Washers. This is the fact. They filter out everything just to get public attentions. If not, news will be too boring. So interesting facts must be there. One cannot say one race is better than another. and One should not feel offended if one race claim that they are better. Why? Now let me ask you guys, Do u feel good once you have achieve something? If u win a lottery, do u feel good? If u study hard and get good results, do u feel good? Yes rite?
Human are made in a way to 'Show off' Show off in what sense? Show off in a way, they are better. Even for those ppl who disagree with this statement, they are actually showing off too. How? You might think, people who are quiet and dun say anything good about themselves, arent showing off. well not exactly, they show off themselves to tell people indirectly that, i m better than you, i dun need to boast around like you do, in a way show off that they dun need to show off. Read again if u cant digest it. ^^ So what is showing off going to do with Stereotyping?
Every Race claim they are better in every way. Why not? If you disagree and say, everyone should be treated equally. Well, yes and no. Why? as said b4, we are all brought up from different backgrounds, from different religion and different Culture, all because we all come of different Place. We all cnt exactly be the same or act the same. So, we tend to 'show off' matters that we know, like mostly are from the things closest to us, eg : the power of my race. Well, whats wrong with that? nothing wrong.
On the other hand, For those people who think that their race is better than another, as said its nothing wrong about that, however one should Never Discriminate another Race. I can say, Chinese are generally very Smart people. BUT, it is wrong for me to say Chinese are Smarter than 'other races'. You can say how good you are, but never compare, cuz always remember there will always be someone better than you. You think Bill gate is the richest man? You think Warren Buffet is the richest man? How to do know? People only can count the value of Shares they have in hand, how about personal asset? If u think u r better than another? then you should start to think, who is better than you? So as a reminder, dun say bad about another race cuz everything in this world happens in 2 ways, Good and Bad. There is always something good and bad in every race.
For those who are offended : Think in such a way , so what? if he/she is discriminating my race, does it shows that, that type of race that he is from is lack of moral values? Does people of his race 'kurang ajar'? They always talk bad about other people races? Ignore such act as we cant please everyone.
For those who are offending but did not realise : If ur words seems right to you, think again, if they seems to be the same or not to the others. Care about people feelings 1st, before you start to comfort yourself. Rmb ya, no one is supreme..
Etara : A mans joy is another's sorrow. If i win money and i m happy, there should be a man that looses money and feel sad. ( Words : 888)
Friday, May 7, 2010
Long Distance Relationship. Does it work out?
There are many types of relationships in this world. There are those who are
1) They both admire each other and are together ( means bf/gf) - Sweet Case
2) One admire the other while the other doesn't, and they both are together.( means its a one sided love) - Problematic
3) Both admire each other and they are not together (Long Distance Relationship)
4) Both don't admire each other and are not together ( means normal friends...lol..)
(NOTE : Together here is referring to the distance between them, not as in Status, ^^)
So in this week post, what if u really love someone and u 'know' that the person love you also but cant meet up. You both agree to be together and dun mind having a long distance relationship. how do u know if this kind of relationship is going to work out or not? Well, read on to know more. ^^This post is mostly suitable to the ladies.... (Guys rarely get emotionally disrupted due to a long distance relationship, bcuz they know how to find ways to distract themselves)
To know how this works, you will hv to know how it starts off 1st. A long distance relationship usually starts of both couples being in 'a relationship 1st. Meaning they are actually, really once bf and gf then after awhile, something went wrong and they both hv to be apart. Normally if cases like this occurs, separation is very likely to occur ( for those couple who hv more than 1 ex), however for those who never hv a bf/gf b4, plus their love towards each other is still strong, they will choose to carry on their relationship, therefore creating something, as now is known as Long Distance Relationship.
How does 'Love' in a long distance relationship, be kept at the 1st place? You see, when both the couples are together, they both do many sweet things and therefore accumulating alot of 'Memories'. These memories is the source to their ever going love feelings toward one another. If you know a guy for over 1 year and every month he hv done something really sweet that touches your heart, and after each 'different' sweet moments u hv with him, you will think, " Whao, so sweet...therefore = I like it = I like him" Something happen and he hv to travel to another place. You both still love each other really much and now the only form of communication u hv with him is Msn, Facebook, Sms, email, on which all is = Virtual. A year hv pass then followed by another year. In that 2 years, you both hv been held together due to those virtual privileges and bcuz you both hv not been physical over a long period of time, the Love Feeling begins to fade away, leaving behind the meaning of ' I Like Him, I still love him~~( unsure) WHY? Interesting to tell. Now, you see...memory fades and the 12 special things that he hv done to you begins to witter away (meaning its hard to remember all 12 in sequence and in details) however in every 12 special cases, a reminder of ' I Like Him ' is being reminded. Therefore after 2 years, you will still think 'i like him'. Well, you might ask, the thought is here then what contributes to my feeling of, i still like him? The answer is : Virtual communication. Everyone like to be praise and to hear good things about oneself and it feels good when u know someone out there likes you, so words that he hv been sending to you, like... I love you, I miss you, I thinking of you all day....,gives you the sweet feelings. Therefore, you still think you like him and you still feel you like him. Now, you also hv to know, how sure are you that his love towards you is still pure, is still true? Anything can happen in that 2 years time. You cant see it, you wouldnt be able to know it, all you hv is the word 'Trust'.
Expectation. What does expectation got to do with a Long Distance Relationship? Well, alot infact. The longer you didnt see that person you love, the more you expect from him. Once he got back to you, you will start to see everything he does. Every action by then counts. He shows care, it counts. He is busy and is not with you, it counts. Why?, It's because you didnt see him for such a long time.
Alrite, if the guy that you love have finally come back to meet you and this time he is to stay with you for good, you would hv to know all the reason behind the possibilities. Is he back bcuz he really love you, or he is back cuz something have happen in that 2 years time that cuz him to return. What are the possible reasons that after a long period of time, that guy that u love will still return to you? As in lets meet up, and he wants to like start a 'Real' relationship with you. Lets break it down to 4 major reasons.
1) He got a gf, and his gf dun love him anymore, while keeping in mind that u still love him, he decided to come back to you. ( Why? cuz he faced a breakup = sad = want to be happy = find a gf, therefore = You) ( Note : this varies from guys to guys, either he do this intentionally (Bad guys, ==, or he do it unconsciously...meaning he starts to feel, Hmm ya, i think she is the right one for me, cuz i still got feelings towards her (Feeling exist is the side effect due to a break up) )
2) He does not hv a gf. He still love you? No. He feel lonely that cuz him to 'love' you? Yes. Why leh? Cuz he knows and can feel you still love him mah...^^
3) He really really love you and he is back for real. He didnt cheat on your feelings and he is honest and loyal to you.
4) He doesnt love you anymore and this time he is back to tell you " Sorry, i got a girlfriend already"
Well, there's nothing much to talk about in the 1st and 2nd probability as the guy you like have come back to you. If the 3rd scenario happens. Your love life cannot be any much better and a strong probability that you both will be lovely together is very high. What happen is 4th cases happens?. Now, lets us see how things turn out if the worst case scenario of occurs and why this things happen as such?
If you are very unlucky and the guy return to break ur heart rather than to sweeten it...then your feeling will be :
1) You will feel very sad. Heart breaking as you hv wait for him so long and false hope is given to you.
2) How long will that feeling last? Not long. Why? cuz u r used to waiting already. If ur long distance relationship are those that sms once a week, or once a month...then u r use to the situation of waiting already. And once u know he doesnt love you anymore, unconsciously you will think, dont worry, its just gonna be another long waiting experience. (If...i say If...If you are really those who hv faced this problem and really...are thinking that he will come back one day...Well i can give you the answer now, 'You are crazy'..Give it up, he wun. If he does, it means his new 'gf' hv left him and he come back for you. If he does, he is not for good. Leave him.)
3) Your feeling of pain won't last so long, its also bcuz he hv not been so physical to you. Remember what i said in the last few post, The more Physical you are engaged into a relationship, the more difficult it is for you to let go.
Solution to such cases? Simple. Forget about him. How? Get a bf and dun engaged into a long distance relationship. Now, to wrap this post up, Let me draw 2 situations out. You decide which one is more logical and from there you will know the answer to your question of which, 'Does Long Distance Relationship work out?'
a) I have been in love with the women ever since i met her. We rarely meet up and 3 years later of having a long distance relationship, we got married and live happily ever after.
b) I know my lady for over 2 years now, been together in a relationship for more than 4 years and we got married. We live happily ever after.
LOL...got the answer. Might be a 'No' rite? However, It could be a yes, unless both parties regularly communicate with one another. and After a long distance relationship, pull back to a normal relationship and continue from then on. Now, the most important answer to which many want to know, " Will things still work out during a long distance relationship?" the answer to it...is...YES...but very hard...^^
( Words : 1528)
1) They both admire each other and are together ( means bf/gf) - Sweet Case
2) One admire the other while the other doesn't, and they both are together.( means its a one sided love) - Problematic
3) Both admire each other and they are not together (Long Distance Relationship)
4) Both don't admire each other and are not together ( means normal friends...lol..)
(NOTE : Together here is referring to the distance between them, not as in Status, ^^)
So in this week post, what if u really love someone and u 'know' that the person love you also but cant meet up. You both agree to be together and dun mind having a long distance relationship. how do u know if this kind of relationship is going to work out or not? Well, read on to know more. ^^This post is mostly suitable to the ladies.... (Guys rarely get emotionally disrupted due to a long distance relationship, bcuz they know how to find ways to distract themselves)
To know how this works, you will hv to know how it starts off 1st. A long distance relationship usually starts of both couples being in 'a relationship 1st. Meaning they are actually, really once bf and gf then after awhile, something went wrong and they both hv to be apart. Normally if cases like this occurs, separation is very likely to occur ( for those couple who hv more than 1 ex), however for those who never hv a bf/gf b4, plus their love towards each other is still strong, they will choose to carry on their relationship, therefore creating something, as now is known as Long Distance Relationship.
How does 'Love' in a long distance relationship, be kept at the 1st place? You see, when both the couples are together, they both do many sweet things and therefore accumulating alot of 'Memories'. These memories is the source to their ever going love feelings toward one another. If you know a guy for over 1 year and every month he hv done something really sweet that touches your heart, and after each 'different' sweet moments u hv with him, you will think, " Whao, so sweet...therefore = I like it = I like him" Something happen and he hv to travel to another place. You both still love each other really much and now the only form of communication u hv with him is Msn, Facebook, Sms, email, on which all is = Virtual. A year hv pass then followed by another year. In that 2 years, you both hv been held together due to those virtual privileges and bcuz you both hv not been physical over a long period of time, the Love Feeling begins to fade away, leaving behind the meaning of ' I Like Him, I still love him~~( unsure) WHY? Interesting to tell. Now, you see...memory fades and the 12 special things that he hv done to you begins to witter away (meaning its hard to remember all 12 in sequence and in details) however in every 12 special cases, a reminder of ' I Like Him ' is being reminded. Therefore after 2 years, you will still think 'i like him'. Well, you might ask, the thought is here then what contributes to my feeling of, i still like him? The answer is : Virtual communication. Everyone like to be praise and to hear good things about oneself and it feels good when u know someone out there likes you, so words that he hv been sending to you, like... I love you, I miss you, I thinking of you all day....,gives you the sweet feelings. Therefore, you still think you like him and you still feel you like him. Now, you also hv to know, how sure are you that his love towards you is still pure, is still true? Anything can happen in that 2 years time. You cant see it, you wouldnt be able to know it, all you hv is the word 'Trust'.
Expectation. What does expectation got to do with a Long Distance Relationship? Well, alot infact. The longer you didnt see that person you love, the more you expect from him. Once he got back to you, you will start to see everything he does. Every action by then counts. He shows care, it counts. He is busy and is not with you, it counts. Why?, It's because you didnt see him for such a long time.
Alrite, if the guy that you love have finally come back to meet you and this time he is to stay with you for good, you would hv to know all the reason behind the possibilities. Is he back bcuz he really love you, or he is back cuz something have happen in that 2 years time that cuz him to return. What are the possible reasons that after a long period of time, that guy that u love will still return to you? As in lets meet up, and he wants to like start a 'Real' relationship with you. Lets break it down to 4 major reasons.
1) He got a gf, and his gf dun love him anymore, while keeping in mind that u still love him, he decided to come back to you. ( Why? cuz he faced a breakup = sad = want to be happy = find a gf, therefore = You) ( Note : this varies from guys to guys, either he do this intentionally (Bad guys, ==, or he do it unconsciously...meaning he starts to feel, Hmm ya, i think she is the right one for me, cuz i still got feelings towards her (Feeling exist is the side effect due to a break up) )
2) He does not hv a gf. He still love you? No. He feel lonely that cuz him to 'love' you? Yes. Why leh? Cuz he knows and can feel you still love him mah...^^
3) He really really love you and he is back for real. He didnt cheat on your feelings and he is honest and loyal to you.
4) He doesnt love you anymore and this time he is back to tell you " Sorry, i got a girlfriend already"
Well, there's nothing much to talk about in the 1st and 2nd probability as the guy you like have come back to you. If the 3rd scenario happens. Your love life cannot be any much better and a strong probability that you both will be lovely together is very high. What happen is 4th cases happens?. Now, lets us see how things turn out if the worst case scenario of occurs and why this things happen as such?
If you are very unlucky and the guy return to break ur heart rather than to sweeten it...then your feeling will be :
1) You will feel very sad. Heart breaking as you hv wait for him so long and false hope is given to you.
2) How long will that feeling last? Not long. Why? cuz u r used to waiting already. If ur long distance relationship are those that sms once a week, or once a month...then u r use to the situation of waiting already. And once u know he doesnt love you anymore, unconsciously you will think, dont worry, its just gonna be another long waiting experience. (If...i say If...If you are really those who hv faced this problem and really...are thinking that he will come back one day...Well i can give you the answer now, 'You are crazy'..Give it up, he wun. If he does, it means his new 'gf' hv left him and he come back for you. If he does, he is not for good. Leave him.)
3) Your feeling of pain won't last so long, its also bcuz he hv not been so physical to you. Remember what i said in the last few post, The more Physical you are engaged into a relationship, the more difficult it is for you to let go.
Solution to such cases? Simple. Forget about him. How? Get a bf and dun engaged into a long distance relationship. Now, to wrap this post up, Let me draw 2 situations out. You decide which one is more logical and from there you will know the answer to your question of which, 'Does Long Distance Relationship work out?'
a) I have been in love with the women ever since i met her. We rarely meet up and 3 years later of having a long distance relationship, we got married and live happily ever after.
b) I know my lady for over 2 years now, been together in a relationship for more than 4 years and we got married. We live happily ever after.
LOL...got the answer. Might be a 'No' rite? However, It could be a yes, unless both parties regularly communicate with one another. and After a long distance relationship, pull back to a normal relationship and continue from then on. Now, the most important answer to which many want to know, " Will things still work out during a long distance relationship?" the answer to it...is...YES...but very hard...^^
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Wednesday, April 28, 2010
Partner love vs Parent's love, Importants revealed.
On Monday i post up matters regarding Heart vs Mind, carrying on to this week post, is a matter regarding Parents. I know there are alot of sincere lovers out there but they are being held back by their parents. They really love each other but they cant be together due to their parents restriction. So, if u r engaged into such a relationship, what should u do?
Number 1 question which is of course the most important question. What is the main purpose for your parents to work so hard and send u guys to college and university for? Answer to that is, To Study. Your 1st Priority is study and if u can handle that, your parents are much likely not to worry about any other things about you. If u hv a bf/gf . hang out everyday, meet everytime and yet...you can get great scores, i m sure ur parents wouldnt disagree. But, even if u dun hv a bf/gf and u hang out every night with friends or join too much clubs affecting ur study, even so, your parents will definitely going to give you some messages. So, the question is , "What should i do"
Simple....
1) Get your study foundation strongly build 1st.
2) Manage ur own timetable. What time to do what.
3) Fully understand the consequences of ur doings.
4) Know ur limits of being in a relationship now.
If u can understand, achieve and control all this factors, only then ur time is ready to be engaged into a relationship. now let me tell you what will happen, if u are goin to argue with ur parents decisions of not letting u having a bf/gf.
1) The ties and bond between you and ur parents will be weaken.
2) You will loose their trust.
3) You will not feel loved. instead u will feel deeply regret.
4) To the worst extend, you will be removed away from the college/university that u r currently at now.
5) Not only that, the story wun ends. if u go to the other college, ur parents will still continue to think if u r goin to get another bf/gf or not, UNLESS you shows good results.
6) In additions, just say u really dun hv a bf/gf but i wasted most of ur time is socializing and mixing around with friends and this causes ur result to be pull down..STILL, they will think u r fooling around in that new college. Your life will not be any much happier if u loose ur Family Trust.
Now think of this. Let me raise some questions for you.
1) Is it much worth it, for you forcefully be in a relationship with someone u 'like' and in return of that, the price to pay is to HURT your parents.
2) Is it correct for you to argue with someone that have raise u up for more than 18 years and more with their own pure effort, just because of a guy/ girl. ( In terms of argue with ur father)
3) Will u hv the heart to HURT ur love ones, the one that care for u, to wake up every morning for years to feed u milk for the past few years of ur early growth.
4) Will u hv the heart to HURT and talk back to someone who hv bare you inside her womb for more that 8 years! Taking care of u, watching ever step she made in order to make sure u r not hurt. Will u hv the heart to hurt them, over someone who u admire for a couple of months.
To all the lovers out there who is reading my post, who are in a relationship but are so call lying to their parents that they are not. Especially to the guys, cuz i know the ladies can easily let go, but its the guys are those who needs more attention. Always remember this...
In Life, you can have many girlfriends, but you only have one mother.
Think wisely, look around you and start counting how many stuff u hv now, is all obtained my ur bare hands. Look at the surrounding around you, who made it possible for u to be here, who give u the opportunity to be here.
Now, how many times have you heard your friends talking bad about their parents, maybe just saying they are naggy, or some even say they are stupid. How many times have u heard kids saying words that are not pleasant over their parents. Alot? alittle? now, again i ask, how many times have you heard parents telling bad about their child. None? Rarely? Think about it.
If got parents reading my post, i will too challenge them now, ill ask them over here, Which parents on earth do not love their child? i can guarantee you that, no parents will step up to me and tell me, I don't. To all my friends out there and to all the readers who are about the same age as me, think about this. Our parents do not hv much time with us, how many more Tens are they goin to live. To be with you. So, please start to appreciate them when u hv the time and opportunity. Cuz when the time has come, they hv to leave and we can do nothing about it. Without them, you wouldn't exist, but without you, they will still exist.
Blood is thicker than Water. (904 Words)
Number 1 question which is of course the most important question. What is the main purpose for your parents to work so hard and send u guys to college and university for? Answer to that is, To Study. Your 1st Priority is study and if u can handle that, your parents are much likely not to worry about any other things about you. If u hv a bf/gf . hang out everyday, meet everytime and yet...you can get great scores, i m sure ur parents wouldnt disagree. But, even if u dun hv a bf/gf and u hang out every night with friends or join too much clubs affecting ur study, even so, your parents will definitely going to give you some messages. So, the question is , "What should i do"
Simple....
1) Get your study foundation strongly build 1st.
2) Manage ur own timetable. What time to do what.
3) Fully understand the consequences of ur doings.
4) Know ur limits of being in a relationship now.
If u can understand, achieve and control all this factors, only then ur time is ready to be engaged into a relationship. now let me tell you what will happen, if u are goin to argue with ur parents decisions of not letting u having a bf/gf.
1) The ties and bond between you and ur parents will be weaken.
2) You will loose their trust.
3) You will not feel loved. instead u will feel deeply regret.
4) To the worst extend, you will be removed away from the college/university that u r currently at now.
5) Not only that, the story wun ends. if u go to the other college, ur parents will still continue to think if u r goin to get another bf/gf or not, UNLESS you shows good results.
6) In additions, just say u really dun hv a bf/gf but i wasted most of ur time is socializing and mixing around with friends and this causes ur result to be pull down..STILL, they will think u r fooling around in that new college. Your life will not be any much happier if u loose ur Family Trust.
Now think of this. Let me raise some questions for you.
1) Is it much worth it, for you forcefully be in a relationship with someone u 'like' and in return of that, the price to pay is to HURT your parents.
2) Is it correct for you to argue with someone that have raise u up for more than 18 years and more with their own pure effort, just because of a guy/ girl. ( In terms of argue with ur father)
3) Will u hv the heart to HURT ur love ones, the one that care for u, to wake up every morning for years to feed u milk for the past few years of ur early growth.
4) Will u hv the heart to HURT and talk back to someone who hv bare you inside her womb for more that 8 years! Taking care of u, watching ever step she made in order to make sure u r not hurt. Will u hv the heart to hurt them, over someone who u admire for a couple of months.
To all the lovers out there who is reading my post, who are in a relationship but are so call lying to their parents that they are not. Especially to the guys, cuz i know the ladies can easily let go, but its the guys are those who needs more attention. Always remember this...
In Life, you can have many girlfriends, but you only have one mother.
Think wisely, look around you and start counting how many stuff u hv now, is all obtained my ur bare hands. Look at the surrounding around you, who made it possible for u to be here, who give u the opportunity to be here.
Now, how many times have you heard your friends talking bad about their parents, maybe just saying they are naggy, or some even say they are stupid. How many times have u heard kids saying words that are not pleasant over their parents. Alot? alittle? now, again i ask, how many times have you heard parents telling bad about their child. None? Rarely? Think about it.
If got parents reading my post, i will too challenge them now, ill ask them over here, Which parents on earth do not love their child? i can guarantee you that, no parents will step up to me and tell me, I don't. To all my friends out there and to all the readers who are about the same age as me, think about this. Our parents do not hv much time with us, how many more Tens are they goin to live. To be with you. So, please start to appreciate them when u hv the time and opportunity. Cuz when the time has come, they hv to leave and we can do nothing about it. Without them, you wouldn't exist, but without you, they will still exist.
Blood is thicker than Water. (904 Words)
Monday, April 26, 2010
Heart Vs Mind. Making the Right Choice.
Last week, i talk about anger and argument. so what if you guys are inside and argument and and feel very angry, even after reading the last week blog, u still feel someone is not right and still not satisfy. Even though, you receive the kind of scolding that is caring but u still feel he is wrong. Maybe, his anger have cause an emotional effect on you. Then what should you do? hmm?
This week, im goin to talk about the differences between Feelings and Reality. Before i continue to elaborate more, i would like to talk abit more on, What we should do if we get caught into a situation when we cant control ourselves. Always remember this saying : Use your heart to see the future but always use the mind to decide the future. What do i mean by this.
You see, we as human are naturally being drive thru our day by feelings and emotions. If you are happy, everything around you seems to be bright and alive, if you are sad, then the world seems to be dark and gloomy. When u r happy, you tend to hv more energy to do things and result in performing well. And as of the opposite when u r sad. So humans are being drive thru the day by our emotions. However, we must not get influence and let this emotion of ours to take effect into our daily actions. We can only make use of it to create a better day for us.
Like example, i m very sad, maybe bcuz my gf scolded me, i cant mix my emotion with my actions on which example i m studying. I cant be thinking of her all the time and neglect my studies. Earlier, i mentioned, use ur heart to see the future and use ur mind to make the decision. So in this case, we must use the head to think, if i focus on my studies now, do well for my tmr final exam and get good grades. not to think of a way, i must think of something real quick to comfort her b4 she ask for a break up. Complicated? If so, then ill give another example.
Lets say i really love a girl now and bcuz of her i m goin to stay in a place to study. Ur heart tell you, stay here and study so u can be with her. Ur mind say, no, go oversea and study in a better university. Which one would you choose. If you use ur heart to make the decision instead of ur Mind, and ended up choosing to stay bcuz of that special someone, now let me raise up a question. What would you do if things didnt turn out to be so good as you dream and after couple of months u break up with her. What will you do? Regret? If ur motivation to stay in one place 2 study is bcuz of her and now she is no more yours, Where have your motivation gone to? So, the main point is, even at times, when things seems good as it seems, always think for what it would be in the future. No one can foretell your future, only you can create the path to your own destiny. Well, to some readers out there, it might be a llittle bit confusing, how about a give another example that is simpler to understand.
One day, you have finally finish downloaded a movie that u wanted to watch over the pass 1 year. you cant wait to watch it, cuz ur favourite actor is on the show. So u decided to click onto the play button and watch the movie. 30 Min till the movie finish and the climax is on. however if u r goin to finish that last 30 min, you are goin to be 13 min late to class. What will you do?
a) Stop the movie, go to class, come back and continue to watch.
b) Finish the movie, and be late to class
c) Finish the movie, and skip class as you are already late. lol
So, which one hv you chose? If ur answer is (a), you are a wise person and knows your priority. You know which is more important and which is not. If you chose the answer (b) then u hv indirectly caught into 'internity blinds reality', u r following ur heart and not setting ur priority. If you chose answer (c), then i wish u good luck. lol. A movie is never more important that ur lectures.
So coming back to couples who hv been into an argument and still cant solve things up. Think it as a way, the argument wun continue forever. its goin to last for alittle while, and while is does, grab the chance to know what is happening and prevent it from happening again. Always remember, Anger is proportional to Care..The earth itself is not round...Nothing is perfect and perfection need not be presence for Happiness to exist. (847 Words)
This week, im goin to talk about the differences between Feelings and Reality. Before i continue to elaborate more, i would like to talk abit more on, What we should do if we get caught into a situation when we cant control ourselves. Always remember this saying : Use your heart to see the future but always use the mind to decide the future. What do i mean by this.
You see, we as human are naturally being drive thru our day by feelings and emotions. If you are happy, everything around you seems to be bright and alive, if you are sad, then the world seems to be dark and gloomy. When u r happy, you tend to hv more energy to do things and result in performing well. And as of the opposite when u r sad. So humans are being drive thru the day by our emotions. However, we must not get influence and let this emotion of ours to take effect into our daily actions. We can only make use of it to create a better day for us.
Like example, i m very sad, maybe bcuz my gf scolded me, i cant mix my emotion with my actions on which example i m studying. I cant be thinking of her all the time and neglect my studies. Earlier, i mentioned, use ur heart to see the future and use ur mind to make the decision. So in this case, we must use the head to think, if i focus on my studies now, do well for my tmr final exam and get good grades. not to think of a way, i must think of something real quick to comfort her b4 she ask for a break up. Complicated? If so, then ill give another example.
Lets say i really love a girl now and bcuz of her i m goin to stay in a place to study. Ur heart tell you, stay here and study so u can be with her. Ur mind say, no, go oversea and study in a better university. Which one would you choose. If you use ur heart to make the decision instead of ur Mind, and ended up choosing to stay bcuz of that special someone, now let me raise up a question. What would you do if things didnt turn out to be so good as you dream and after couple of months u break up with her. What will you do? Regret? If ur motivation to stay in one place 2 study is bcuz of her and now she is no more yours, Where have your motivation gone to? So, the main point is, even at times, when things seems good as it seems, always think for what it would be in the future. No one can foretell your future, only you can create the path to your own destiny. Well, to some readers out there, it might be a llittle bit confusing, how about a give another example that is simpler to understand.
One day, you have finally finish downloaded a movie that u wanted to watch over the pass 1 year. you cant wait to watch it, cuz ur favourite actor is on the show. So u decided to click onto the play button and watch the movie. 30 Min till the movie finish and the climax is on. however if u r goin to finish that last 30 min, you are goin to be 13 min late to class. What will you do?
a) Stop the movie, go to class, come back and continue to watch.
b) Finish the movie, and be late to class
c) Finish the movie, and skip class as you are already late. lol
So, which one hv you chose? If ur answer is (a), you are a wise person and knows your priority. You know which is more important and which is not. If you chose the answer (b) then u hv indirectly caught into 'internity blinds reality', u r following ur heart and not setting ur priority. If you chose answer (c), then i wish u good luck. lol. A movie is never more important that ur lectures.
So coming back to couples who hv been into an argument and still cant solve things up. Think it as a way, the argument wun continue forever. its goin to last for alittle while, and while is does, grab the chance to know what is happening and prevent it from happening again. Always remember, Anger is proportional to Care..The earth itself is not round...Nothing is perfect and perfection need not be presence for Happiness to exist. (847 Words)
Friday, April 23, 2010
Anger and Arguments.
Anger and Argument always come along in a relationship. Its sometime very common and both in every relationship must except it. Sweet does not comes without sour. Argument in a relationship is good, it helps to increase the level of endurance between both partners, but it all depends on the ability of each other on how understanding they are in order to withstand the temporary argument. Anger is found in anyone and everyone and normally the level of anger is proportional to the level of care. If someone dun care for you, they wun scold you and even talk to you. That is why, we all get scolding from our parents. Its because they love us and care for us.
Anger are divided into 2 types, Self Centered Anger and Caring Anger. Self centered anger are those type of argument in which one scold the other in a way which is rather dry. like example, Why are you...haiz! You know it very well that i dun like it right! Omg, i cant believe it! Dun talk to me anymore!. This are the kind of words used in a a self centered anger. Everything is about him. The caring type of anger are anger that are express in terms of love. Like, Why arent you going to eat! You are goin to get gastric you know! No! Stop, i dun care, you have to go slp now, i wun talk to you anymore!, your exam is at 8am and its already 2am! this are anger of care. So, to those people who are reading this, which type you fall into? if u fall into the 2nd one, you should be happy. If u fall into the 1st one...hmm..start to think where went wrong.
Do you know if u engaged into a relationship with argument is better than engaging into a relationship without an argument? Why would i say so, This is the reason, if both parties always argue, understand and settle and again argue, understand other situation and settle. There chances of breaking up is lesser. For those people who are really sweet together and never argue b4 are slightly more dangerous. Cuz when something of a misunderstanding occurs, they get angry, and duno what to do. as the result, break up!. or they will think, erm..ok lar ok lar is my fault, eventhough its not their fault and after awhile, one will start to wonder, is he really for me? after few more argument, Break Up! There are 2 reasons how couples can be together that do not argue and be very sweet to each other.
1) They both are very very understanding to the point one can always tolerate the other action and feel comfortable with it...or....
2) They both are born to be together. lol..in another words, they hv strong feeling of admiration even before they know one and others name.
(Note : This is rare)
So for readers who are in an argument with ur bf/gf, start to think which type of argument you guys are at now. Remember, Anger in a relationship is normally, stated as this : The more angry someone is on you, the more they care about you, the more they dun wan you to get hurt, both in externally and also internally. Anger is proportional to care. If both of u guys argue bcuz both if u really wan to care for each other. Advise to this is, Learn how to Give and Take. Of course, dun give all and dun take all. 50% is just the right way it should be.
Mr Tai : Our Anger makes us unhappy almost everyday, so if we want to live happily, we have to learn not to get angry. (618 words)
Anger are divided into 2 types, Self Centered Anger and Caring Anger. Self centered anger are those type of argument in which one scold the other in a way which is rather dry. like example, Why are you...haiz! You know it very well that i dun like it right! Omg, i cant believe it! Dun talk to me anymore!. This are the kind of words used in a a self centered anger. Everything is about him. The caring type of anger are anger that are express in terms of love. Like, Why arent you going to eat! You are goin to get gastric you know! No! Stop, i dun care, you have to go slp now, i wun talk to you anymore!, your exam is at 8am and its already 2am! this are anger of care. So, to those people who are reading this, which type you fall into? if u fall into the 2nd one, you should be happy. If u fall into the 1st one...hmm..start to think where went wrong.
Do you know if u engaged into a relationship with argument is better than engaging into a relationship without an argument? Why would i say so, This is the reason, if both parties always argue, understand and settle and again argue, understand other situation and settle. There chances of breaking up is lesser. For those people who are really sweet together and never argue b4 are slightly more dangerous. Cuz when something of a misunderstanding occurs, they get angry, and duno what to do. as the result, break up!. or they will think, erm..ok lar ok lar is my fault, eventhough its not their fault and after awhile, one will start to wonder, is he really for me? after few more argument, Break Up! There are 2 reasons how couples can be together that do not argue and be very sweet to each other.
1) They both are very very understanding to the point one can always tolerate the other action and feel comfortable with it...or....
2) They both are born to be together. lol..in another words, they hv strong feeling of admiration even before they know one and others name.
(Note : This is rare)
So for readers who are in an argument with ur bf/gf, start to think which type of argument you guys are at now. Remember, Anger in a relationship is normally, stated as this : The more angry someone is on you, the more they care about you, the more they dun wan you to get hurt, both in externally and also internally. Anger is proportional to care. If both of u guys argue bcuz both if u really wan to care for each other. Advise to this is, Learn how to Give and Take. Of course, dun give all and dun take all. 50% is just the right way it should be.
Mr Tai : Our Anger makes us unhappy almost everyday, so if we want to live happily, we have to learn not to get angry. (618 words)
Thursday, April 22, 2010
How relationship starts off?
To many people out there, have you ever been into a relationship that is like, you are not in a relationship ?..hmm..means what?..Means like you are ur partner spend time together like, 7am in the morning till 2am everyday, but are not bf/gf. Hmm, but before i talk about that, let me tell you how relationship normally starts off..
First, a boy and a girl will hang out together and spend most of their time together. the guy will think about the girl and remembers everything they do together. Like walk together, eat together, study together and so on. After a little while, the girl will get use to the situation and starts to find him every time. When time grew longer like about 2 weeks, the guy will start to think that he like the girl and then confess to the girl. Why will he feel like that?. These are the reasons:
1) He feel that the girl he have been hanging out for over some time comforts him, like eg made him happy and forget about the rest.
2) He feels lonely. lol..^^
3) No one have been so close to him b4 except his lovely mother. ( this is for those who dun hv a gf b4)
The girl will think about it and might end up accepting him. Why leh? This are the reasons
1) She feels that she is a nice guy.
2) She feel comfortable being with the guy. Like that guy always make her laugh. (Reason behind reason : cuz they hang out most of the time)
3) She begin to think, ok lar..lets give it a try..
4) Rare case : She feels bad if she reject you, beside you are a nice guy.
5) Super rare : the girl will really fall in love with that guy. unless she notice that guy in 1st sight)
They both starts to hold hands and they both are together. Isnt it sweet? lol..
Actually, to get engage in a relationship, its very easy. Its handling it that make things so difficult. Love is so simple that its hard to achieve. As long as both understand one another and both feels comfortable with one another decision then everything will work out. Normally to relationships who start of after 2 weeks of really knowing one another will not really work out,,,It might last for about 1 month or 2. Why leh?..too fast. 2 weeks of time is ever enough to get to know one another. Even u really like that person, you have to wait for the right time.
Saying of the day :
Wan Wen : Slow and Steady Wins the Race..:P (431 words)
First, a boy and a girl will hang out together and spend most of their time together. the guy will think about the girl and remembers everything they do together. Like walk together, eat together, study together and so on. After a little while, the girl will get use to the situation and starts to find him every time. When time grew longer like about 2 weeks, the guy will start to think that he like the girl and then confess to the girl. Why will he feel like that?. These are the reasons:
1) He feel that the girl he have been hanging out for over some time comforts him, like eg made him happy and forget about the rest.
2) He feels lonely. lol..^^
3) No one have been so close to him b4 except his lovely mother. ( this is for those who dun hv a gf b4)
The girl will think about it and might end up accepting him. Why leh? This are the reasons
1) She feels that she is a nice guy.
2) She feel comfortable being with the guy. Like that guy always make her laugh. (Reason behind reason : cuz they hang out most of the time)
3) She begin to think, ok lar..lets give it a try..
4) Rare case : She feels bad if she reject you, beside you are a nice guy.
5) Super rare : the girl will really fall in love with that guy. unless she notice that guy in 1st sight)
They both starts to hold hands and they both are together. Isnt it sweet? lol..
Actually, to get engage in a relationship, its very easy. Its handling it that make things so difficult. Love is so simple that its hard to achieve. As long as both understand one another and both feels comfortable with one another decision then everything will work out. Normally to relationships who start of after 2 weeks of really knowing one another will not really work out,,,It might last for about 1 month or 2. Why leh?..too fast. 2 weeks of time is ever enough to get to know one another. Even u really like that person, you have to wait for the right time.
Saying of the day :
Wan Wen : Slow and Steady Wins the Race..:P (431 words)
Wednesday, April 21, 2010
Internity Blinds Reality
What does my blog name means? internity blinds reality? In this world there are many things we do that is being blind by our inner self like example, your inner thoughts..like there are many things we always overthink. Like, i like a girl and i txt her, she always reply me instantly but untill one time, i txt her and she didnt reply for a long time, then i start to think, did i say something wrong? after 5 min, ill send another txt message and say, did i say anything wrong? after another 5 min with no reply, then ill send a message saying i m so sorry if i hv said something wrong. lol..How many of u guys hv done that? hmm..maybe for those who hv been into a relationship b4 will know. So this is the meaning of Internity Blinds Reality. The reality is, that girl/guy is busy or didnt hear the vibration of his/her phone, but in the internal thought of you, is that, she/he is getting angry thats y didnt reply. lol. This is the reason why many people say, Dun think so much. i like to quote things of what my friends said...and this are a few for now..
Vanesse : Why you care when people dun care...
Alex : God are fragile things, they shatter by a whiff of science or a dose of common sense.
Wan Wen : its isn't complicated, yet not simple.
BBoy Han : Formal Education will make you a living, self education will make you a fortune.
Richard Goh : Comparisions are easily done once you have the taste of perfection (268 Words)
Vanesse : Why you care when people dun care...
Alex : God are fragile things, they shatter by a whiff of science or a dose of common sense.
Wan Wen : its isn't complicated, yet not simple.
BBoy Han : Formal Education will make you a living, self education will make you a fortune.
Richard Goh : Comparisions are easily done once you have the taste of perfection (268 Words)
Sunday, April 18, 2010
Come read, come read....^^
Hi...to all the people who knows me, who knows my blog but i duno u..im very sorry ya. Lately, something big occured, but now it hv subside. To those people of A Levels : May 2009 intake, if i have cause some misunderstanding to you guys, I m really Sorry. Some people may say, why u say sorry to them, u dun hv to, but still i feel i need to. Cuz recently i only know tht there are many people reading my blog and i dun even know. lol. sorry. Before i continue to type, for those who like to hear more things regarding of feelings and emotion stuff, this blog page is the correct one, but if for those who feel disgusted about the describing over feeling stuff, then sorry...wrong page already.. lol..^^ This page mostly welcome people who :
1) Needs to know more about feelings
2) Needs to know what is happening to them, why they are feeling as such towards another guy/girl. Or why feel is feeling as such to you.
3) Those who feel they are being neglected, like people dun like them.
4) Those who think they really need help in love matter and so on ..^^
My name is Etara. i m 18 years old and i like to help people. I like to help people regarding on relationship stuff, feelings, emotion breaks down and many more. if u wan someone to listen to you, i m willing to lend you my ears. Why do i get in return? the answer to that is Joy. I naturally feel happy, when i see the people i have help, being happy. For all those who does not know me well, but really thinks u need my help?..no problem....
My Email is somwhang_13@hotmail.com
You can email me and tell me your problems and its for sure that ill keep it safe.
How can i guarantee that? lol..simple, just dun tell me who u are then i wun know you..^^
I like to help people alot and bcuz of that some of u readers might feel..as though, 'Eh not bad ah' while some will feel, ' Omg, Etara please...' i dun mind. Why leh...Haiz..in this world got many people like you and got many people hate you wan lar...so lesson 1, to those people who feel as though there are people disliking you or talking bad about you, dun worry, cuz there are still people who likes you wan. In this world, there are black and white, heaven and hell, good and evil, male and female so why not, there will be people who like you and some who doesnt?..right..hehe.. Oh ya, if u guys have any questions u guys wan to ask that i can publish it like eg, How come everytime the guys have to confess his feelings to a girl 1st? why not the other way round? Feel free to drop the comment and ill talk about it in my blog. So anytime, drop by to read. and anytime i welcome anyone to email me...^^ (503 Words)
1) Needs to know more about feelings
2) Needs to know what is happening to them, why they are feeling as such towards another guy/girl. Or why feel is feeling as such to you.
3) Those who feel they are being neglected, like people dun like them.
4) Those who think they really need help in love matter and so on ..^^
My name is Etara. i m 18 years old and i like to help people. I like to help people regarding on relationship stuff, feelings, emotion breaks down and many more. if u wan someone to listen to you, i m willing to lend you my ears. Why do i get in return? the answer to that is Joy. I naturally feel happy, when i see the people i have help, being happy. For all those who does not know me well, but really thinks u need my help?..no problem....
My Email is somwhang_13@hotmail.com
You can email me and tell me your problems and its for sure that ill keep it safe.
How can i guarantee that? lol..simple, just dun tell me who u are then i wun know you..^^
I like to help people alot and bcuz of that some of u readers might feel..as though, 'Eh not bad ah' while some will feel, ' Omg, Etara please...' i dun mind. Why leh...Haiz..in this world got many people like you and got many people hate you wan lar...so lesson 1, to those people who feel as though there are people disliking you or talking bad about you, dun worry, cuz there are still people who likes you wan. In this world, there are black and white, heaven and hell, good and evil, male and female so why not, there will be people who like you and some who doesnt?..right..hehe.. Oh ya, if u guys have any questions u guys wan to ask that i can publish it like eg, How come everytime the guys have to confess his feelings to a girl 1st? why not the other way round? Feel free to drop the comment and ill talk about it in my blog. So anytime, drop by to read. and anytime i welcome anyone to email me...^^ (503 Words)
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