On Monday i post up matters regarding Heart vs Mind, carrying on to this week post, is a matter regarding Parents. I know there are alot of sincere lovers out there but they are being held back by their parents. They really love each other but they cant be together due to their parents restriction. So, if u r engaged into such a relationship, what should u do?
Number 1 question which is of course the most important question. What is the main purpose for your parents to work so hard and send u guys to college and university for? Answer to that is, To Study. Your 1st Priority is study and if u can handle that, your parents are much likely not to worry about any other things about you. If u hv a bf/gf . hang out everyday, meet everytime and yet...you can get great scores, i m sure ur parents wouldnt disagree. But, even if u dun hv a bf/gf and u hang out every night with friends or join too much clubs affecting ur study, even so, your parents will definitely going to give you some messages. So, the question is , "What should i do"
Simple....
1) Get your study foundation strongly build 1st.
2) Manage ur own timetable. What time to do what.
3) Fully understand the consequences of ur doings.
4) Know ur limits of being in a relationship now.
If u can understand, achieve and control all this factors, only then ur time is ready to be engaged into a relationship. now let me tell you what will happen, if u are goin to argue with ur parents decisions of not letting u having a bf/gf.
1) The ties and bond between you and ur parents will be weaken.
2) You will loose their trust.
3) You will not feel loved. instead u will feel deeply regret.
4) To the worst extend, you will be removed away from the college/university that u r currently at now.
5) Not only that, the story wun ends. if u go to the other college, ur parents will still continue to think if u r goin to get another bf/gf or not, UNLESS you shows good results.
6) In additions, just say u really dun hv a bf/gf but i wasted most of ur time is socializing and mixing around with friends and this causes ur result to be pull down..STILL, they will think u r fooling around in that new college. Your life will not be any much happier if u loose ur Family Trust.
Now think of this. Let me raise some questions for you.
1) Is it much worth it, for you forcefully be in a relationship with someone u 'like' and in return of that, the price to pay is to HURT your parents.
2) Is it correct for you to argue with someone that have raise u up for more than 18 years and more with their own pure effort, just because of a guy/ girl. ( In terms of argue with ur father)
3) Will u hv the heart to HURT ur love ones, the one that care for u, to wake up every morning for years to feed u milk for the past few years of ur early growth.
4) Will u hv the heart to HURT and talk back to someone who hv bare you inside her womb for more that 8 years! Taking care of u, watching ever step she made in order to make sure u r not hurt. Will u hv the heart to hurt them, over someone who u admire for a couple of months.
To all the lovers out there who is reading my post, who are in a relationship but are so call lying to their parents that they are not. Especially to the guys, cuz i know the ladies can easily let go, but its the guys are those who needs more attention. Always remember this...
In Life, you can have many girlfriends, but you only have one mother.
Think wisely, look around you and start counting how many stuff u hv now, is all obtained my ur bare hands. Look at the surrounding around you, who made it possible for u to be here, who give u the opportunity to be here.
Now, how many times have you heard your friends talking bad about their parents, maybe just saying they are naggy, or some even say they are stupid. How many times have u heard kids saying words that are not pleasant over their parents. Alot? alittle? now, again i ask, how many times have you heard parents telling bad about their child. None? Rarely? Think about it.
If got parents reading my post, i will too challenge them now, ill ask them over here, Which parents on earth do not love their child? i can guarantee you that, no parents will step up to me and tell me, I don't. To all my friends out there and to all the readers who are about the same age as me, think about this. Our parents do not hv much time with us, how many more Tens are they goin to live. To be with you. So, please start to appreciate them when u hv the time and opportunity. Cuz when the time has come, they hv to leave and we can do nothing about it. Without them, you wouldn't exist, but without you, they will still exist.
Blood is thicker than Water. (904 Words)
Wednesday, April 28, 2010
Monday, April 26, 2010
Heart Vs Mind. Making the Right Choice.
Last week, i talk about anger and argument. so what if you guys are inside and argument and and feel very angry, even after reading the last week blog, u still feel someone is not right and still not satisfy. Even though, you receive the kind of scolding that is caring but u still feel he is wrong. Maybe, his anger have cause an emotional effect on you. Then what should you do? hmm?
This week, im goin to talk about the differences between Feelings and Reality. Before i continue to elaborate more, i would like to talk abit more on, What we should do if we get caught into a situation when we cant control ourselves. Always remember this saying : Use your heart to see the future but always use the mind to decide the future. What do i mean by this.
You see, we as human are naturally being drive thru our day by feelings and emotions. If you are happy, everything around you seems to be bright and alive, if you are sad, then the world seems to be dark and gloomy. When u r happy, you tend to hv more energy to do things and result in performing well. And as of the opposite when u r sad. So humans are being drive thru the day by our emotions. However, we must not get influence and let this emotion of ours to take effect into our daily actions. We can only make use of it to create a better day for us.
Like example, i m very sad, maybe bcuz my gf scolded me, i cant mix my emotion with my actions on which example i m studying. I cant be thinking of her all the time and neglect my studies. Earlier, i mentioned, use ur heart to see the future and use ur mind to make the decision. So in this case, we must use the head to think, if i focus on my studies now, do well for my tmr final exam and get good grades. not to think of a way, i must think of something real quick to comfort her b4 she ask for a break up. Complicated? If so, then ill give another example.
Lets say i really love a girl now and bcuz of her i m goin to stay in a place to study. Ur heart tell you, stay here and study so u can be with her. Ur mind say, no, go oversea and study in a better university. Which one would you choose. If you use ur heart to make the decision instead of ur Mind, and ended up choosing to stay bcuz of that special someone, now let me raise up a question. What would you do if things didnt turn out to be so good as you dream and after couple of months u break up with her. What will you do? Regret? If ur motivation to stay in one place 2 study is bcuz of her and now she is no more yours, Where have your motivation gone to? So, the main point is, even at times, when things seems good as it seems, always think for what it would be in the future. No one can foretell your future, only you can create the path to your own destiny. Well, to some readers out there, it might be a llittle bit confusing, how about a give another example that is simpler to understand.
One day, you have finally finish downloaded a movie that u wanted to watch over the pass 1 year. you cant wait to watch it, cuz ur favourite actor is on the show. So u decided to click onto the play button and watch the movie. 30 Min till the movie finish and the climax is on. however if u r goin to finish that last 30 min, you are goin to be 13 min late to class. What will you do?
a) Stop the movie, go to class, come back and continue to watch.
b) Finish the movie, and be late to class
c) Finish the movie, and skip class as you are already late. lol
So, which one hv you chose? If ur answer is (a), you are a wise person and knows your priority. You know which is more important and which is not. If you chose the answer (b) then u hv indirectly caught into 'internity blinds reality', u r following ur heart and not setting ur priority. If you chose answer (c), then i wish u good luck. lol. A movie is never more important that ur lectures.
So coming back to couples who hv been into an argument and still cant solve things up. Think it as a way, the argument wun continue forever. its goin to last for alittle while, and while is does, grab the chance to know what is happening and prevent it from happening again. Always remember, Anger is proportional to Care..The earth itself is not round...Nothing is perfect and perfection need not be presence for Happiness to exist. (847 Words)
This week, im goin to talk about the differences between Feelings and Reality. Before i continue to elaborate more, i would like to talk abit more on, What we should do if we get caught into a situation when we cant control ourselves. Always remember this saying : Use your heart to see the future but always use the mind to decide the future. What do i mean by this.
You see, we as human are naturally being drive thru our day by feelings and emotions. If you are happy, everything around you seems to be bright and alive, if you are sad, then the world seems to be dark and gloomy. When u r happy, you tend to hv more energy to do things and result in performing well. And as of the opposite when u r sad. So humans are being drive thru the day by our emotions. However, we must not get influence and let this emotion of ours to take effect into our daily actions. We can only make use of it to create a better day for us.
Like example, i m very sad, maybe bcuz my gf scolded me, i cant mix my emotion with my actions on which example i m studying. I cant be thinking of her all the time and neglect my studies. Earlier, i mentioned, use ur heart to see the future and use ur mind to make the decision. So in this case, we must use the head to think, if i focus on my studies now, do well for my tmr final exam and get good grades. not to think of a way, i must think of something real quick to comfort her b4 she ask for a break up. Complicated? If so, then ill give another example.
Lets say i really love a girl now and bcuz of her i m goin to stay in a place to study. Ur heart tell you, stay here and study so u can be with her. Ur mind say, no, go oversea and study in a better university. Which one would you choose. If you use ur heart to make the decision instead of ur Mind, and ended up choosing to stay bcuz of that special someone, now let me raise up a question. What would you do if things didnt turn out to be so good as you dream and after couple of months u break up with her. What will you do? Regret? If ur motivation to stay in one place 2 study is bcuz of her and now she is no more yours, Where have your motivation gone to? So, the main point is, even at times, when things seems good as it seems, always think for what it would be in the future. No one can foretell your future, only you can create the path to your own destiny. Well, to some readers out there, it might be a llittle bit confusing, how about a give another example that is simpler to understand.
One day, you have finally finish downloaded a movie that u wanted to watch over the pass 1 year. you cant wait to watch it, cuz ur favourite actor is on the show. So u decided to click onto the play button and watch the movie. 30 Min till the movie finish and the climax is on. however if u r goin to finish that last 30 min, you are goin to be 13 min late to class. What will you do?
a) Stop the movie, go to class, come back and continue to watch.
b) Finish the movie, and be late to class
c) Finish the movie, and skip class as you are already late. lol
So, which one hv you chose? If ur answer is (a), you are a wise person and knows your priority. You know which is more important and which is not. If you chose the answer (b) then u hv indirectly caught into 'internity blinds reality', u r following ur heart and not setting ur priority. If you chose answer (c), then i wish u good luck. lol. A movie is never more important that ur lectures.
So coming back to couples who hv been into an argument and still cant solve things up. Think it as a way, the argument wun continue forever. its goin to last for alittle while, and while is does, grab the chance to know what is happening and prevent it from happening again. Always remember, Anger is proportional to Care..The earth itself is not round...Nothing is perfect and perfection need not be presence for Happiness to exist. (847 Words)
Friday, April 23, 2010
Anger and Arguments.
Anger and Argument always come along in a relationship. Its sometime very common and both in every relationship must except it. Sweet does not comes without sour. Argument in a relationship is good, it helps to increase the level of endurance between both partners, but it all depends on the ability of each other on how understanding they are in order to withstand the temporary argument. Anger is found in anyone and everyone and normally the level of anger is proportional to the level of care. If someone dun care for you, they wun scold you and even talk to you. That is why, we all get scolding from our parents. Its because they love us and care for us.
Anger are divided into 2 types, Self Centered Anger and Caring Anger. Self centered anger are those type of argument in which one scold the other in a way which is rather dry. like example, Why are you...haiz! You know it very well that i dun like it right! Omg, i cant believe it! Dun talk to me anymore!. This are the kind of words used in a a self centered anger. Everything is about him. The caring type of anger are anger that are express in terms of love. Like, Why arent you going to eat! You are goin to get gastric you know! No! Stop, i dun care, you have to go slp now, i wun talk to you anymore!, your exam is at 8am and its already 2am! this are anger of care. So, to those people who are reading this, which type you fall into? if u fall into the 2nd one, you should be happy. If u fall into the 1st one...hmm..start to think where went wrong.
Do you know if u engaged into a relationship with argument is better than engaging into a relationship without an argument? Why would i say so, This is the reason, if both parties always argue, understand and settle and again argue, understand other situation and settle. There chances of breaking up is lesser. For those people who are really sweet together and never argue b4 are slightly more dangerous. Cuz when something of a misunderstanding occurs, they get angry, and duno what to do. as the result, break up!. or they will think, erm..ok lar ok lar is my fault, eventhough its not their fault and after awhile, one will start to wonder, is he really for me? after few more argument, Break Up! There are 2 reasons how couples can be together that do not argue and be very sweet to each other.
1) They both are very very understanding to the point one can always tolerate the other action and feel comfortable with it...or....
2) They both are born to be together. lol..in another words, they hv strong feeling of admiration even before they know one and others name.
(Note : This is rare)
So for readers who are in an argument with ur bf/gf, start to think which type of argument you guys are at now. Remember, Anger in a relationship is normally, stated as this : The more angry someone is on you, the more they care about you, the more they dun wan you to get hurt, both in externally and also internally. Anger is proportional to care. If both of u guys argue bcuz both if u really wan to care for each other. Advise to this is, Learn how to Give and Take. Of course, dun give all and dun take all. 50% is just the right way it should be.
Mr Tai : Our Anger makes us unhappy almost everyday, so if we want to live happily, we have to learn not to get angry. (618 words)
Anger are divided into 2 types, Self Centered Anger and Caring Anger. Self centered anger are those type of argument in which one scold the other in a way which is rather dry. like example, Why are you...haiz! You know it very well that i dun like it right! Omg, i cant believe it! Dun talk to me anymore!. This are the kind of words used in a a self centered anger. Everything is about him. The caring type of anger are anger that are express in terms of love. Like, Why arent you going to eat! You are goin to get gastric you know! No! Stop, i dun care, you have to go slp now, i wun talk to you anymore!, your exam is at 8am and its already 2am! this are anger of care. So, to those people who are reading this, which type you fall into? if u fall into the 2nd one, you should be happy. If u fall into the 1st one...hmm..start to think where went wrong.
Do you know if u engaged into a relationship with argument is better than engaging into a relationship without an argument? Why would i say so, This is the reason, if both parties always argue, understand and settle and again argue, understand other situation and settle. There chances of breaking up is lesser. For those people who are really sweet together and never argue b4 are slightly more dangerous. Cuz when something of a misunderstanding occurs, they get angry, and duno what to do. as the result, break up!. or they will think, erm..ok lar ok lar is my fault, eventhough its not their fault and after awhile, one will start to wonder, is he really for me? after few more argument, Break Up! There are 2 reasons how couples can be together that do not argue and be very sweet to each other.
1) They both are very very understanding to the point one can always tolerate the other action and feel comfortable with it...or....
2) They both are born to be together. lol..in another words, they hv strong feeling of admiration even before they know one and others name.
(Note : This is rare)
So for readers who are in an argument with ur bf/gf, start to think which type of argument you guys are at now. Remember, Anger in a relationship is normally, stated as this : The more angry someone is on you, the more they care about you, the more they dun wan you to get hurt, both in externally and also internally. Anger is proportional to care. If both of u guys argue bcuz both if u really wan to care for each other. Advise to this is, Learn how to Give and Take. Of course, dun give all and dun take all. 50% is just the right way it should be.
Mr Tai : Our Anger makes us unhappy almost everyday, so if we want to live happily, we have to learn not to get angry. (618 words)
Thursday, April 22, 2010
How relationship starts off?
To many people out there, have you ever been into a relationship that is like, you are not in a relationship ?..hmm..means what?..Means like you are ur partner spend time together like, 7am in the morning till 2am everyday, but are not bf/gf. Hmm, but before i talk about that, let me tell you how relationship normally starts off..
First, a boy and a girl will hang out together and spend most of their time together. the guy will think about the girl and remembers everything they do together. Like walk together, eat together, study together and so on. After a little while, the girl will get use to the situation and starts to find him every time. When time grew longer like about 2 weeks, the guy will start to think that he like the girl and then confess to the girl. Why will he feel like that?. These are the reasons:
1) He feel that the girl he have been hanging out for over some time comforts him, like eg made him happy and forget about the rest.
2) He feels lonely. lol..^^
3) No one have been so close to him b4 except his lovely mother. ( this is for those who dun hv a gf b4)
The girl will think about it and might end up accepting him. Why leh? This are the reasons
1) She feels that she is a nice guy.
2) She feel comfortable being with the guy. Like that guy always make her laugh. (Reason behind reason : cuz they hang out most of the time)
3) She begin to think, ok lar..lets give it a try..
4) Rare case : She feels bad if she reject you, beside you are a nice guy.
5) Super rare : the girl will really fall in love with that guy. unless she notice that guy in 1st sight)
They both starts to hold hands and they both are together. Isnt it sweet? lol..
Actually, to get engage in a relationship, its very easy. Its handling it that make things so difficult. Love is so simple that its hard to achieve. As long as both understand one another and both feels comfortable with one another decision then everything will work out. Normally to relationships who start of after 2 weeks of really knowing one another will not really work out,,,It might last for about 1 month or 2. Why leh?..too fast. 2 weeks of time is ever enough to get to know one another. Even u really like that person, you have to wait for the right time.
Saying of the day :
Wan Wen : Slow and Steady Wins the Race..:P (431 words)
First, a boy and a girl will hang out together and spend most of their time together. the guy will think about the girl and remembers everything they do together. Like walk together, eat together, study together and so on. After a little while, the girl will get use to the situation and starts to find him every time. When time grew longer like about 2 weeks, the guy will start to think that he like the girl and then confess to the girl. Why will he feel like that?. These are the reasons:
1) He feel that the girl he have been hanging out for over some time comforts him, like eg made him happy and forget about the rest.
2) He feels lonely. lol..^^
3) No one have been so close to him b4 except his lovely mother. ( this is for those who dun hv a gf b4)
The girl will think about it and might end up accepting him. Why leh? This are the reasons
1) She feels that she is a nice guy.
2) She feel comfortable being with the guy. Like that guy always make her laugh. (Reason behind reason : cuz they hang out most of the time)
3) She begin to think, ok lar..lets give it a try..
4) Rare case : She feels bad if she reject you, beside you are a nice guy.
5) Super rare : the girl will really fall in love with that guy. unless she notice that guy in 1st sight)
They both starts to hold hands and they both are together. Isnt it sweet? lol..
Actually, to get engage in a relationship, its very easy. Its handling it that make things so difficult. Love is so simple that its hard to achieve. As long as both understand one another and both feels comfortable with one another decision then everything will work out. Normally to relationships who start of after 2 weeks of really knowing one another will not really work out,,,It might last for about 1 month or 2. Why leh?..too fast. 2 weeks of time is ever enough to get to know one another. Even u really like that person, you have to wait for the right time.
Saying of the day :
Wan Wen : Slow and Steady Wins the Race..:P (431 words)
Wednesday, April 21, 2010
Internity Blinds Reality
What does my blog name means? internity blinds reality? In this world there are many things we do that is being blind by our inner self like example, your inner thoughts..like there are many things we always overthink. Like, i like a girl and i txt her, she always reply me instantly but untill one time, i txt her and she didnt reply for a long time, then i start to think, did i say something wrong? after 5 min, ill send another txt message and say, did i say anything wrong? after another 5 min with no reply, then ill send a message saying i m so sorry if i hv said something wrong. lol..How many of u guys hv done that? hmm..maybe for those who hv been into a relationship b4 will know. So this is the meaning of Internity Blinds Reality. The reality is, that girl/guy is busy or didnt hear the vibration of his/her phone, but in the internal thought of you, is that, she/he is getting angry thats y didnt reply. lol. This is the reason why many people say, Dun think so much. i like to quote things of what my friends said...and this are a few for now..
Vanesse : Why you care when people dun care...
Alex : God are fragile things, they shatter by a whiff of science or a dose of common sense.
Wan Wen : its isn't complicated, yet not simple.
BBoy Han : Formal Education will make you a living, self education will make you a fortune.
Richard Goh : Comparisions are easily done once you have the taste of perfection (268 Words)
Vanesse : Why you care when people dun care...
Alex : God are fragile things, they shatter by a whiff of science or a dose of common sense.
Wan Wen : its isn't complicated, yet not simple.
BBoy Han : Formal Education will make you a living, self education will make you a fortune.
Richard Goh : Comparisions are easily done once you have the taste of perfection (268 Words)
Sunday, April 18, 2010
Come read, come read....^^
Hi...to all the people who knows me, who knows my blog but i duno u..im very sorry ya. Lately, something big occured, but now it hv subside. To those people of A Levels : May 2009 intake, if i have cause some misunderstanding to you guys, I m really Sorry. Some people may say, why u say sorry to them, u dun hv to, but still i feel i need to. Cuz recently i only know tht there are many people reading my blog and i dun even know. lol. sorry. Before i continue to type, for those who like to hear more things regarding of feelings and emotion stuff, this blog page is the correct one, but if for those who feel disgusted about the describing over feeling stuff, then sorry...wrong page already.. lol..^^ This page mostly welcome people who :
1) Needs to know more about feelings
2) Needs to know what is happening to them, why they are feeling as such towards another guy/girl. Or why feel is feeling as such to you.
3) Those who feel they are being neglected, like people dun like them.
4) Those who think they really need help in love matter and so on ..^^
My name is Etara. i m 18 years old and i like to help people. I like to help people regarding on relationship stuff, feelings, emotion breaks down and many more. if u wan someone to listen to you, i m willing to lend you my ears. Why do i get in return? the answer to that is Joy. I naturally feel happy, when i see the people i have help, being happy. For all those who does not know me well, but really thinks u need my help?..no problem....
My Email is somwhang_13@hotmail.com
You can email me and tell me your problems and its for sure that ill keep it safe.
How can i guarantee that? lol..simple, just dun tell me who u are then i wun know you..^^
I like to help people alot and bcuz of that some of u readers might feel..as though, 'Eh not bad ah' while some will feel, ' Omg, Etara please...' i dun mind. Why leh...Haiz..in this world got many people like you and got many people hate you wan lar...so lesson 1, to those people who feel as though there are people disliking you or talking bad about you, dun worry, cuz there are still people who likes you wan. In this world, there are black and white, heaven and hell, good and evil, male and female so why not, there will be people who like you and some who doesnt?..right..hehe.. Oh ya, if u guys have any questions u guys wan to ask that i can publish it like eg, How come everytime the guys have to confess his feelings to a girl 1st? why not the other way round? Feel free to drop the comment and ill talk about it in my blog. So anytime, drop by to read. and anytime i welcome anyone to email me...^^ (503 Words)
1) Needs to know more about feelings
2) Needs to know what is happening to them, why they are feeling as such towards another guy/girl. Or why feel is feeling as such to you.
3) Those who feel they are being neglected, like people dun like them.
4) Those who think they really need help in love matter and so on ..^^
My name is Etara. i m 18 years old and i like to help people. I like to help people regarding on relationship stuff, feelings, emotion breaks down and many more. if u wan someone to listen to you, i m willing to lend you my ears. Why do i get in return? the answer to that is Joy. I naturally feel happy, when i see the people i have help, being happy. For all those who does not know me well, but really thinks u need my help?..no problem....
My Email is somwhang_13@hotmail.com
You can email me and tell me your problems and its for sure that ill keep it safe.
How can i guarantee that? lol..simple, just dun tell me who u are then i wun know you..^^
I like to help people alot and bcuz of that some of u readers might feel..as though, 'Eh not bad ah' while some will feel, ' Omg, Etara please...' i dun mind. Why leh...Haiz..in this world got many people like you and got many people hate you wan lar...so lesson 1, to those people who feel as though there are people disliking you or talking bad about you, dun worry, cuz there are still people who likes you wan. In this world, there are black and white, heaven and hell, good and evil, male and female so why not, there will be people who like you and some who doesnt?..right..hehe.. Oh ya, if u guys have any questions u guys wan to ask that i can publish it like eg, How come everytime the guys have to confess his feelings to a girl 1st? why not the other way round? Feel free to drop the comment and ill talk about it in my blog. So anytime, drop by to read. and anytime i welcome anyone to email me...^^ (503 Words)
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