This week post will be kept rather short. This post is up as a request and it is named as " Stereotyping, Does it matter?" There are all sort of people in this world. We all come from different part of the world and therefore we appears to look differently. Because of that, we mix around with the people that tend to look alike like us, why? cuz we naturally feel comfortable with it. Human mix with Human. Animals mix with animals. Even plants grows in areas of their own kind. Humans however appears to be different in colour, as said before. And because of this, we mix with ppl of our own colours and we think as one. The way we all act and behave are due to the influence of our upbring as we are all exposed to different "Culture". Like example, from the Westerns ,their parents feel ok for their child to be engaged into a relationship at very young age as they this its alrite, they will hv to learn this things sooner or later. As for the Asians, the parents will have a completely opposite way of thinking. They will disagree and say, No! cannot. Why should they engaged in to such act/activities at such a young age? they will learn it naturally as they go up.
You see, different races, different thinking, different mentality. Japanese people are very kind and sweet, the Black Africans are very rough. Can i say that? NO...i cannot. If i do, then ill be wrong. We cannot stereotype people by their colours and the Majority. If everytime i turn on my tv and see bombing every where in Thailand, can i say Thailand is a dangerous country? I step into Thailand, i get bomb. No..lol.. You see, Mass Medias are Brain Washers. This is the fact. They filter out everything just to get public attentions. If not, news will be too boring. So interesting facts must be there. One cannot say one race is better than another. and One should not feel offended if one race claim that they are better. Why? Now let me ask you guys, Do u feel good once you have achieve something? If u win a lottery, do u feel good? If u study hard and get good results, do u feel good? Yes rite?
Human are made in a way to 'Show off' Show off in what sense? Show off in a way, they are better. Even for those ppl who disagree with this statement, they are actually showing off too. How? You might think, people who are quiet and dun say anything good about themselves, arent showing off. well not exactly, they show off themselves to tell people indirectly that, i m better than you, i dun need to boast around like you do, in a way show off that they dun need to show off. Read again if u cant digest it. ^^ So what is showing off going to do with Stereotyping?
Every Race claim they are better in every way. Why not? If you disagree and say, everyone should be treated equally. Well, yes and no. Why? as said b4, we are all brought up from different backgrounds, from different religion and different Culture, all because we all come of different Place. We all cnt exactly be the same or act the same. So, we tend to 'show off' matters that we know, like mostly are from the things closest to us, eg : the power of my race. Well, whats wrong with that? nothing wrong.
On the other hand, For those people who think that their race is better than another, as said its nothing wrong about that, however one should Never Discriminate another Race. I can say, Chinese are generally very Smart people. BUT, it is wrong for me to say Chinese are Smarter than 'other races'. You can say how good you are, but never compare, cuz always remember there will always be someone better than you. You think Bill gate is the richest man? You think Warren Buffet is the richest man? How to do know? People only can count the value of Shares they have in hand, how about personal asset? If u think u r better than another? then you should start to think, who is better than you? So as a reminder, dun say bad about another race cuz everything in this world happens in 2 ways, Good and Bad. There is always something good and bad in every race.
For those who are offended : Think in such a way , so what? if he/she is discriminating my race, does it shows that, that type of race that he is from is lack of moral values? Does people of his race 'kurang ajar'? They always talk bad about other people races? Ignore such act as we cant please everyone.
For those who are offending but did not realise : If ur words seems right to you, think again, if they seems to be the same or not to the others. Care about people feelings 1st, before you start to comfort yourself. Rmb ya, no one is supreme..
Etara : A mans joy is another's sorrow. If i win money and i m happy, there should be a man that looses money and feel sad. ( Words : 888)
Thursday, May 13, 2010
Friday, May 7, 2010
Long Distance Relationship. Does it work out?
There are many types of relationships in this world. There are those who are
1) They both admire each other and are together ( means bf/gf) - Sweet Case
2) One admire the other while the other doesn't, and they both are together.( means its a one sided love) - Problematic
3) Both admire each other and they are not together (Long Distance Relationship)
4) Both don't admire each other and are not together ( means normal friends...lol..)
(NOTE : Together here is referring to the distance between them, not as in Status, ^^)
So in this week post, what if u really love someone and u 'know' that the person love you also but cant meet up. You both agree to be together and dun mind having a long distance relationship. how do u know if this kind of relationship is going to work out or not? Well, read on to know more. ^^This post is mostly suitable to the ladies.... (Guys rarely get emotionally disrupted due to a long distance relationship, bcuz they know how to find ways to distract themselves)
To know how this works, you will hv to know how it starts off 1st. A long distance relationship usually starts of both couples being in 'a relationship 1st. Meaning they are actually, really once bf and gf then after awhile, something went wrong and they both hv to be apart. Normally if cases like this occurs, separation is very likely to occur ( for those couple who hv more than 1 ex), however for those who never hv a bf/gf b4, plus their love towards each other is still strong, they will choose to carry on their relationship, therefore creating something, as now is known as Long Distance Relationship.
How does 'Love' in a long distance relationship, be kept at the 1st place? You see, when both the couples are together, they both do many sweet things and therefore accumulating alot of 'Memories'. These memories is the source to their ever going love feelings toward one another. If you know a guy for over 1 year and every month he hv done something really sweet that touches your heart, and after each 'different' sweet moments u hv with him, you will think, " Whao, so sweet...therefore = I like it = I like him" Something happen and he hv to travel to another place. You both still love each other really much and now the only form of communication u hv with him is Msn, Facebook, Sms, email, on which all is = Virtual. A year hv pass then followed by another year. In that 2 years, you both hv been held together due to those virtual privileges and bcuz you both hv not been physical over a long period of time, the Love Feeling begins to fade away, leaving behind the meaning of ' I Like Him, I still love him~~( unsure) WHY? Interesting to tell. Now, you see...memory fades and the 12 special things that he hv done to you begins to witter away (meaning its hard to remember all 12 in sequence and in details) however in every 12 special cases, a reminder of ' I Like Him ' is being reminded. Therefore after 2 years, you will still think 'i like him'. Well, you might ask, the thought is here then what contributes to my feeling of, i still like him? The answer is : Virtual communication. Everyone like to be praise and to hear good things about oneself and it feels good when u know someone out there likes you, so words that he hv been sending to you, like... I love you, I miss you, I thinking of you all day....,gives you the sweet feelings. Therefore, you still think you like him and you still feel you like him. Now, you also hv to know, how sure are you that his love towards you is still pure, is still true? Anything can happen in that 2 years time. You cant see it, you wouldnt be able to know it, all you hv is the word 'Trust'.
Expectation. What does expectation got to do with a Long Distance Relationship? Well, alot infact. The longer you didnt see that person you love, the more you expect from him. Once he got back to you, you will start to see everything he does. Every action by then counts. He shows care, it counts. He is busy and is not with you, it counts. Why?, It's because you didnt see him for such a long time.
Alrite, if the guy that you love have finally come back to meet you and this time he is to stay with you for good, you would hv to know all the reason behind the possibilities. Is he back bcuz he really love you, or he is back cuz something have happen in that 2 years time that cuz him to return. What are the possible reasons that after a long period of time, that guy that u love will still return to you? As in lets meet up, and he wants to like start a 'Real' relationship with you. Lets break it down to 4 major reasons.
1) He got a gf, and his gf dun love him anymore, while keeping in mind that u still love him, he decided to come back to you. ( Why? cuz he faced a breakup = sad = want to be happy = find a gf, therefore = You) ( Note : this varies from guys to guys, either he do this intentionally (Bad guys, ==, or he do it unconsciously...meaning he starts to feel, Hmm ya, i think she is the right one for me, cuz i still got feelings towards her (Feeling exist is the side effect due to a break up) )
2) He does not hv a gf. He still love you? No. He feel lonely that cuz him to 'love' you? Yes. Why leh? Cuz he knows and can feel you still love him mah...^^
3) He really really love you and he is back for real. He didnt cheat on your feelings and he is honest and loyal to you.
4) He doesnt love you anymore and this time he is back to tell you " Sorry, i got a girlfriend already"
Well, there's nothing much to talk about in the 1st and 2nd probability as the guy you like have come back to you. If the 3rd scenario happens. Your love life cannot be any much better and a strong probability that you both will be lovely together is very high. What happen is 4th cases happens?. Now, lets us see how things turn out if the worst case scenario of occurs and why this things happen as such?
If you are very unlucky and the guy return to break ur heart rather than to sweeten it...then your feeling will be :
1) You will feel very sad. Heart breaking as you hv wait for him so long and false hope is given to you.
2) How long will that feeling last? Not long. Why? cuz u r used to waiting already. If ur long distance relationship are those that sms once a week, or once a month...then u r use to the situation of waiting already. And once u know he doesnt love you anymore, unconsciously you will think, dont worry, its just gonna be another long waiting experience. (If...i say If...If you are really those who hv faced this problem and really...are thinking that he will come back one day...Well i can give you the answer now, 'You are crazy'..Give it up, he wun. If he does, it means his new 'gf' hv left him and he come back for you. If he does, he is not for good. Leave him.)
3) Your feeling of pain won't last so long, its also bcuz he hv not been so physical to you. Remember what i said in the last few post, The more Physical you are engaged into a relationship, the more difficult it is for you to let go.
Solution to such cases? Simple. Forget about him. How? Get a bf and dun engaged into a long distance relationship. Now, to wrap this post up, Let me draw 2 situations out. You decide which one is more logical and from there you will know the answer to your question of which, 'Does Long Distance Relationship work out?'
a) I have been in love with the women ever since i met her. We rarely meet up and 3 years later of having a long distance relationship, we got married and live happily ever after.
b) I know my lady for over 2 years now, been together in a relationship for more than 4 years and we got married. We live happily ever after.
LOL...got the answer. Might be a 'No' rite? However, It could be a yes, unless both parties regularly communicate with one another. and After a long distance relationship, pull back to a normal relationship and continue from then on. Now, the most important answer to which many want to know, " Will things still work out during a long distance relationship?" the answer to it...is...YES...but very hard...^^
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1) They both admire each other and are together ( means bf/gf) - Sweet Case
2) One admire the other while the other doesn't, and they both are together.( means its a one sided love) - Problematic
3) Both admire each other and they are not together (Long Distance Relationship)
4) Both don't admire each other and are not together ( means normal friends...lol..)
(NOTE : Together here is referring to the distance between them, not as in Status, ^^)
So in this week post, what if u really love someone and u 'know' that the person love you also but cant meet up. You both agree to be together and dun mind having a long distance relationship. how do u know if this kind of relationship is going to work out or not? Well, read on to know more. ^^This post is mostly suitable to the ladies.... (Guys rarely get emotionally disrupted due to a long distance relationship, bcuz they know how to find ways to distract themselves)
To know how this works, you will hv to know how it starts off 1st. A long distance relationship usually starts of both couples being in 'a relationship 1st. Meaning they are actually, really once bf and gf then after awhile, something went wrong and they both hv to be apart. Normally if cases like this occurs, separation is very likely to occur ( for those couple who hv more than 1 ex), however for those who never hv a bf/gf b4, plus their love towards each other is still strong, they will choose to carry on their relationship, therefore creating something, as now is known as Long Distance Relationship.
How does 'Love' in a long distance relationship, be kept at the 1st place? You see, when both the couples are together, they both do many sweet things and therefore accumulating alot of 'Memories'. These memories is the source to their ever going love feelings toward one another. If you know a guy for over 1 year and every month he hv done something really sweet that touches your heart, and after each 'different' sweet moments u hv with him, you will think, " Whao, so sweet...therefore = I like it = I like him" Something happen and he hv to travel to another place. You both still love each other really much and now the only form of communication u hv with him is Msn, Facebook, Sms, email, on which all is = Virtual. A year hv pass then followed by another year. In that 2 years, you both hv been held together due to those virtual privileges and bcuz you both hv not been physical over a long period of time, the Love Feeling begins to fade away, leaving behind the meaning of ' I Like Him, I still love him~~( unsure) WHY? Interesting to tell. Now, you see...memory fades and the 12 special things that he hv done to you begins to witter away (meaning its hard to remember all 12 in sequence and in details) however in every 12 special cases, a reminder of ' I Like Him ' is being reminded. Therefore after 2 years, you will still think 'i like him'. Well, you might ask, the thought is here then what contributes to my feeling of, i still like him? The answer is : Virtual communication. Everyone like to be praise and to hear good things about oneself and it feels good when u know someone out there likes you, so words that he hv been sending to you, like... I love you, I miss you, I thinking of you all day....,gives you the sweet feelings. Therefore, you still think you like him and you still feel you like him. Now, you also hv to know, how sure are you that his love towards you is still pure, is still true? Anything can happen in that 2 years time. You cant see it, you wouldnt be able to know it, all you hv is the word 'Trust'.
Expectation. What does expectation got to do with a Long Distance Relationship? Well, alot infact. The longer you didnt see that person you love, the more you expect from him. Once he got back to you, you will start to see everything he does. Every action by then counts. He shows care, it counts. He is busy and is not with you, it counts. Why?, It's because you didnt see him for such a long time.
Alrite, if the guy that you love have finally come back to meet you and this time he is to stay with you for good, you would hv to know all the reason behind the possibilities. Is he back bcuz he really love you, or he is back cuz something have happen in that 2 years time that cuz him to return. What are the possible reasons that after a long period of time, that guy that u love will still return to you? As in lets meet up, and he wants to like start a 'Real' relationship with you. Lets break it down to 4 major reasons.
1) He got a gf, and his gf dun love him anymore, while keeping in mind that u still love him, he decided to come back to you. ( Why? cuz he faced a breakup = sad = want to be happy = find a gf, therefore = You) ( Note : this varies from guys to guys, either he do this intentionally (Bad guys, ==, or he do it unconsciously...meaning he starts to feel, Hmm ya, i think she is the right one for me, cuz i still got feelings towards her (Feeling exist is the side effect due to a break up) )
2) He does not hv a gf. He still love you? No. He feel lonely that cuz him to 'love' you? Yes. Why leh? Cuz he knows and can feel you still love him mah...^^
3) He really really love you and he is back for real. He didnt cheat on your feelings and he is honest and loyal to you.
4) He doesnt love you anymore and this time he is back to tell you " Sorry, i got a girlfriend already"
Well, there's nothing much to talk about in the 1st and 2nd probability as the guy you like have come back to you. If the 3rd scenario happens. Your love life cannot be any much better and a strong probability that you both will be lovely together is very high. What happen is 4th cases happens?. Now, lets us see how things turn out if the worst case scenario of occurs and why this things happen as such?
If you are very unlucky and the guy return to break ur heart rather than to sweeten it...then your feeling will be :
1) You will feel very sad. Heart breaking as you hv wait for him so long and false hope is given to you.
2) How long will that feeling last? Not long. Why? cuz u r used to waiting already. If ur long distance relationship are those that sms once a week, or once a month...then u r use to the situation of waiting already. And once u know he doesnt love you anymore, unconsciously you will think, dont worry, its just gonna be another long waiting experience. (If...i say If...If you are really those who hv faced this problem and really...are thinking that he will come back one day...Well i can give you the answer now, 'You are crazy'..Give it up, he wun. If he does, it means his new 'gf' hv left him and he come back for you. If he does, he is not for good. Leave him.)
3) Your feeling of pain won't last so long, its also bcuz he hv not been so physical to you. Remember what i said in the last few post, The more Physical you are engaged into a relationship, the more difficult it is for you to let go.
Solution to such cases? Simple. Forget about him. How? Get a bf and dun engaged into a long distance relationship. Now, to wrap this post up, Let me draw 2 situations out. You decide which one is more logical and from there you will know the answer to your question of which, 'Does Long Distance Relationship work out?'
a) I have been in love with the women ever since i met her. We rarely meet up and 3 years later of having a long distance relationship, we got married and live happily ever after.
b) I know my lady for over 2 years now, been together in a relationship for more than 4 years and we got married. We live happily ever after.
LOL...got the answer. Might be a 'No' rite? However, It could be a yes, unless both parties regularly communicate with one another. and After a long distance relationship, pull back to a normal relationship and continue from then on. Now, the most important answer to which many want to know, " Will things still work out during a long distance relationship?" the answer to it...is...YES...but very hard...^^
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