Smelling a shoe and being in ones shoe both definitely means differently.
In this post, im going to explain this phase in terms of relationship. but before i start off with anything, please let me remind those lovers out there.Those who are engaged into a relationship, to ask yourself, Why are you being engaged into one. Why you are with her? or why are you with him?
Love? is that the answer? If you love someone, is it all about your feeling towards the special person and even that special person feelings towards you? No, not entirely true. Its also about
1) Knowing and feeling that persons feeling
2) Knowing why that person feel that way and also
3) Being able to feel why and what that person feel as such.
There are so many things to consider when u are in a relationship and because there are just too many things to consider, people who are engaged in a relationship often get quarrels and argument all because they neglected about these things.
If you are the type of person that love to talk and your girlfriend is the one that don't like to talk as much as you. its ok. but before you accept the answer as its ok, ask yourself those question as stated above. If she doesnt talk to you much or if she wants you to talk to her more, ask...Why have she feel this way? What have i done to make her feel this way. OR What can i do to make her to differently. Once you know your answer to those questions, ONLY THEN you can ask yourself
1) Why she couldnt feel the way im feeling now?
2) Why cant she get adapt to me?
3) Why cant things be in my ways than to be in hers
Now talking about Smelling the Shoe. means you are asking question based on your own feeling, by your own judgement. Example, your girlfriend is asking you for this, is asking you for that. you got annoyed and might start to grumble abit. For those who doesnt know, Being in one's shoe means to feel what that person is feeling. Same thing as around. If you call your bf to get you something and he strongly decline not to buy it for you. Instead of grumbling on it, THINK and FEEL why doesnt he want to buy it for you?
If your girlfriend complain about something, THINK and ASK, Why she complained about it? (DON'T ASSUME) before you grumble that she always complain about it. Same as our normal life style, would you think of what you want to eat then get hungry or get hungry then think about what to eat. If your answer is the 1st option then look at your tummy and the answer is there. Don't sold someone when that person have done something wrong. Think on why that person have done it wrongly then only judge to scold that person or not.
The character of a person that dun talk much. You all should not talk about the person not talking much but instead THINK on what happen to that person that cuz him/her not to talk as much?Is it because of Mood? the way he/she is raised up? or even a toothache..? There are many things that are beyond our control or even beyond that person's control. So you must to understand and accept.
So before you complain or grumble about things u dun like about your partner, please think on why your partner will act as such.
And coming back to those earlier questions that i asked, about why you are with him/her? Obviously, its because there is something deep within that human soul that you admire that's why you choose him/her to be your bf/gf
Now, you must know this, " Do you really love him/ love her?" You have to answer that question.
Many teenagers nowadays are engaged into a relationship all because of Physical reason. Please don't let that factor blinds you away from your thoughts.
If you really love that person, please continue to love that person with Harmony. To some guys, If possible, please treat your girlfriend with respect and treat them as your 'girlfriend' and not like an object. Not all girls are like those that play and dump you aside, there are really good ones outside, so dun regret if they leave you, cuz sometimes it could be your fault that chase them away. Don't talk bad about your partner or Grumbles on stuff that he/she is not doing for you...because sometimes:
When things does not happen in your own way, its the best way.
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